Venus In Aqua – The Love Zombie Antidote
I’d like to thank Venus in Aquarius (since February 2) for my having become the total opposite of a Love Zombie.
It’s like ultra-violet lucidity and a genuine disdain for anything that feels too fake, soggy or non-now.
Natal Venus in Aquarius peeps, please share: Do you ever experience Love Zombie attacks? Or did you fall in the pot of magic potion as a child and you are thus perma-inoculated?
There is an exhaustive list of natal Venus in Aquarius characters here – everyone from Harry Styles, Taylor Swift and Kate Moss to the Anti-Christ (w.t.f?) apparently has Venus in Aqua lol. You are, it would seem, slightly more likely to be gay, enjoy big age-cap romances and/or become an adult entertainment performer if you have Venus in this sign.
Is it the detachment or the individuation? And is Taylor Swift a Love Zombie after all or just super-objectively soul-mining these boys for inspiration and to make a billion dollars?
For Reference: Lady You Don’t Need Astrology - The original article in which we coined the L.Z term and were deemed “fuqed up clueless whores” and “pseudo-intellectual astro bitches” (or something) by a possible Love Zombie in denial.
Thoughts?
I have had many, many friends and lovers (I joked for years about only dating venus in aqua peeps due to regularity) (+) (my most recent ex the aqua included) with venus in aqua natal and my ex is the most horrid love zombie ever. Many are not of course but total crap on non stalking zombieland, this is from a scorpio. its not over till when exactly?. Friends have seen drop into this also. However i love them as a rule, fantastic energy when haute.
A guy was telling me about his sex life and how it had to be completely unemotional for him to do it. Its also highly experimental. He’s apparently very skilled at what he does and tends to see a lot of women at once. I did his chart when he left and I looked at your venus/mars sign sleazometer for his venus in aquarius. You basically quoted him in the description for it…
Love Zombie here.. i just can’t stop. I am in dreamland! I just can’t stop! But I keep on stepping. I don’t stop to wait or pursue! I don’t do it! I enjoy my life alone right now! Maybe still healing from childhood stuff that will take some time but I didn the right thing to get the healing process going and “he” is apart of it! He will help me figure it out! So I will remain a LZ to heal! I am sticking to that story!
No venus in Aqua natally for me. ?? xo!
Venus is natally in Scorpio (1st house)
I have Venus in Aries, but I definitely to being less of a Love Zombie this month. Something about fantasising about the wrong man suddenly feels really gross and so last century. Must be the effects of Venus in Aqua.
agree. Venus in Aires as well. The LZ issues of 2011-12 have been swept away and replaced by a “are you kidding, you are not good enough for this!” vibe.
Yeah. Not getting any, but certainly no LZing..
I feel something has shifted.
Totally agree!! Used to be head over heels in love zombie with this Aqua.. this would be the fourth year of the obsession.. And just this month he moves to my city says he is now ready to be together and I am completely and utterly grossed out. Not a chance. And I will admit to a few texts and sexy daydreams up until the month before… YAY Venus in Aquarius. I’m cured.
Venus in Aries too and experiencing the exact same clarity. Have been horrific love zombie in past though so it’s about damn time!
* I can definitely admit
I have become the anti love zombie as well! Never to return to my old love zombie ways! Onward!
I think Taylor Swift is a fameho who wants famous dik. She harrasses them with texts, jumps on them and then when they are whipped puts demands on them and walks away expecting them to run after her, and when they dont she feels entitled to out them in her songs because her immature ego genuinely feels she has been wronged. She plays games to satisfy her ego and then justifies it with ‘he just wasnt man enough for me’.
BUT I LOVE THE SONG TROUBLE! it was about john mayer.
I hate her bolt-ons (boobjob). I reckons she sees herself as an awesome man-eater.
I think swifty has mars in scorpio. Maybe that explains her persistency and vengeful songs
Ooh, she & Mel have something in common. Perhaps that warlike Mars and cool Venus make for a weird combo in love?
she sounds more shifty
My mum is an Venus in Aqua. (piscean sun) Mega Love Zombie, got addicted to the sex. But hates reals intimacy in relationships, needs her space.
I have venus transiting my natal sun sign and am feeling quite the opposite of a LZ. There are a few singles here in rehab who would seem to be acceptable – however the hard facts hit that they have D & A or mental health issues going on and are not appropriate for me, trying to move through my own issues.
That is a good point though, Mystic. I’m feeling detached from those LZ thoughts however it could also be a process of individuation. It’s good not to be caught up in it.
Jicky! Good to hear your voice. And that you have a handle on what is appropriate for you among the otherwise seemingly eligibles
I’ve had relationships with D&A struggling people and people with mental health issues, because they are people and not their issues, and it is some aspect of their energy and character that attracted me.
I would like to have recognised how these issues would dissolve the love, But at the same time i treasure the beauty in the relationships, the weird strange unconventional delights i experienced. This is not a recommendation
You are doing well, i trust? Best wishes xx
oh the ex-addict men. i fall for them always because they have the depth, the wound, the phoenix potential… they have already fallen. and they get me as much as i get them. but after the swoon falls off the reality is tricky and destructive, usually. so sayeth saturn today. still, you sound good. xoxo
Thank you ladies, both. I am better and gaining much strength and insight. Yes, Mille and Hidden Dragon Queen, those men could be lovely, deep and embody many other special qualities you both mention.
My last relationship however was with a D & A man with underlying issues and quite frankly I would like something different for myself next time around. Also we are cautioned here about alliances with peers, as if one person relapses it puts a lot of pressure on the other with their own recovery.
I’m just aware of the LZ tendencies thankfully through MM’s life-coaching. My psych, however, is quite the handsome fellow….
After seducing one i thought it best to see female counsellors. Though i’ll admit i decided on Aries Counsellor after first visit because she is Supremely Beautiful to look at with the most incredible eyes, and dresses exceptionally well. It sounds superficial but my sense of beauty is not bound to the surface; their character/nature shines out strongly to me. In fact, she has been teaching me to trust my intuition. I love her. And i thank god she is not a man.
Wouldn’t it be lovely to meet someone with that exquisite understanding of the haunted soul, who is not haunting their own soul? Sometimes i think this is a delusion, but mostly i have Piscean faith (Venus Aqua i suppose keeps trying them on for size). I forgot your astro, Jicky. Is it Libra Sun or Pisces Sun? And there was a Leo something…i should stop guessing
Do not give me ideas MillenNotte! It is so easy to project onto the Psych/Counsellor, what is the technical term for it? Why are they so lovely…
I have Aqua Sun, Kataka Rising and Libra Moon x
ps you may be right about finding a lovely woman for counselling. Would take a lot of the fantasy out of the sessions (blushing etc…)
Good to hear from you Jicky. x
You’ve not been far from my thoughts.
Hope you got to see the Russell Brand doco.
Peace and Blessings .xx
PS My relationships with 2 from rehab ended up back on the gear…best of luck, hard not to want intimacy at such a raw time.
Much respect. x
Thank you so much Cosmic Fleece. Yes I watched the RB doco twice in a row! It was brilliant and really helped me in my self concept of being a substance user. I felt empowered to use the descriptor ‘junkie’ (although my issue is synthetic cannabis) and also realised that I too was one of the 10% that can not use that recreationally.
I have also been given Amy Winehouse’s biography written by her father and that has been helping me understand what it is like for those who care for me watching me use all the time plus the priority I have given to the substance over more important aspects of my life.
Thank you again for your suggestions and support and for keeping me in your thoughts. I am very touched and humbled, regards x
Surely Mel Gibson is a love zombie. He was recorded leaving such an obsessive desperate message. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/stanton-peele/mad-mels-hang-up-love-and_b_648693.html
He has Chiron in Aqua too tho…
I would say his Saturn/Mars in Scorpio would make him a little intense also.
I guess the scorpio energy overrides the Aquarius.
i think if you could name what ails Gibson, LZisme would be the least of it.
Well thank fuq for Venus in Aqua, that explains a lot, because usually I am…quite the LZ. I mean, I have venus in Kataka. Ahem.
Wow! I would have loved Venus in Aqua but then I would miss all the watery trines my Kataka Venus makes in my chart.
Moon in Aqua would be a nice change from Moon in Scorpio some days too. Anyone wanna swap Moons for the weekend?
Ive always been so curious about Scorpio Moons. What interesting is that there is always one in my life and although we never admit it to one another, we find each other fascinating. I would love to swap moons for a weekend just so I can see how those shoes feel.
I would like moon in aqua or venus in aqua for a week.. I always feel my most detached when moon is in aqua.
Not swapping for the scorpio moon, thank you!! Mercury/uranus/lilith in scorpio is enough for me.
I am quite happy with natal moon in aries most of the time. You can’t beat the best (hello! it’s aries)
Really, without it, I would drown in self-doubt and analysing the fuq out of everything.
welcome tomy Venus in Kataka world .
I’d like to swap to venus in pisces and moon in libra for a bit. something a bit softer than my moon in scorpio whih can be a bit blunt sometimes -ok like all the time. My leo sun can schmoozle my way out of most stitchs but I’ve turned a lot of peeps off with my harsh words- that are just ‘real’ to me.
Haha Leogroover, I have the same problem. I turn off a lot of ppl with my “real” words that seem too harsh. It must be my detached Aqua Moon talking, because apparently it doesnt bug me! I can roll with a lot of things others cant seem to… but whatevs. My Mars in Virgo is like the best clean-up crew EVER. Is on fixing that sh*t before it becomes nasty.
Yes I’m moon in scorpio and i want to swap moon in aqua just to see what that is like. I live life with such intensity it would be nice to see something different.
Electric Eel Libran, you can borrow my Moon in Aqua the weekend after Andromeda =^ ^=
Disclaimer: If you get strange, weird, out of the universe type thoughts and out of body emotions though, I wont be responsible for those. I get Alien complex on the daily. Thats the Aqua Moon for ya.
Oh I forgot to add, it also happens to be a Moon in 8th… so its an intense Aqua Moon. But Im sure since youre seasoned dealing with Moon in Scorpio, you’ll be able to handle my Moon just fine. LOL. Ok, I think Im done now
hetero dame with mars in aqua here; have had karmic exp with venus aqua (on my mars) and always wondered about this from an astro p.o.v?basically, am i doing things arse up!?
because it’s your mars and his venus? seems like a natural progression in our increasingly androgynous world… a good thing.
yeah, I’ve been feeling it too and have been looking curiously at my detachment….. the recent lover is still there, in my mind, but not in an obsessed or yearning way. Just there as part an ongoing analytic process. Also uninterested in rustling up any new ones too! Quite a relief, really!
Venus in Libra natally.
Im going through this too. Learned loads about myself though because the last relationship was really painful for me, even though I was the one who ended it. Im Venus in Cap.
Yes and yes. Perhaps it is my Venus in Scorpio but this current astro has been about working through an intense LZ scenario Chris Kraus style (metaphorically of course – I am not literally stalking anyone). Transforming obsession into catharsis through synthesis and analysis. Drawing conclusions that my shrink would be proud of!
AAAAhem. Venus in Aqua conj Merc here.
Transiting Venus conj Venus at this very moment and I lament a bit that I am not a more attached fishy sun, Libra ascending, moon in sign of the Bull. Thank the goddess that I have a lil bit-o-detachment cuz that’s a metric fuq-ton of zombie potential w that line up, one would grok.
I can admit to being attracted to freaks, older men. Being a professional classical dancer I have dabbled in some burlesque circus contortion acts. Could be mars in Gemini too –The road to hell is paved with boredom.
However, I have zombie attacks of the blurry-illusory-romantic variety upon occasion. And I can flip a switch: If its not real, or nourishing, challenging enough… well, I refuse to go through the motions.
Genuinely brill tho, not a bit of pseudo-intellect,
Let us contemplate: Do men really want smart women?
I def can’t entertain a less than brill man.
Otherwise thankful for my fickle nature.
IOW, I’m in the states and its nice to contribute to the convo rather than skulk about voyeuristic.
Venus in Sag – not really very LZ! Mostly very detached and all about fun. Cannot really deal with too much seriousness in relationships – but then Sun/Pluto Scorp doesn’t like to be fuqed with and Libra stellium wants pairbonding. A bit of a challenge.
Quite possibly I have become more LZ since Venus in Aqua. Didn’t help that ex-lover contacted me a couple of days before it went into Aqua. Selfish prick weaseling his way back into my head. I had a great Venus in Cap thought process going on: the whole “would you go into business with this person? No. Then why the hell would you want to be in a relationship with them”. Nooooooooo…. Venus in Aqua comes along and I miss his friendship more than anything. Sitting around wishing he could see what a huge mistake he made.
Stupid love life.
I have heard that for aquas, their friends are their lovers and their lovers are their friends. Maybe you could tap into that vibe.
I wish it were that easy. We agreed to stay friends. Even on V-Day had a few texts and said I missed his friendship… Naughty me. But there’s 6000km and a girlfriend between him and I. I would love to just text him and ask how he’s going, how’s life type thing, but somehow it seems inappropriate and desperate. This is squarely in the “too hard basket”.
I reaffirm: he made a huge mistake going back to her. Dunno why I think this, probably the LZ coming delusion coming through.
But yes! I have many many Aqua friends – and they really do epitomise the word girlfriend/boyfriend… In fact my bestie Aqua friend hates the idea if marriage, hates the terms: lover, partner, significant other, any term that isn’t “girl/boyfriend” (yes, she’s bi) because the friend part is the most important part to her.
My lovers have always always been my friends but never have my friends become my lovers.
I agree as an Aqua. My boyfriends are always my partners in crime and scheme/joke buddies first and foremost and that is the hardest and most heartbreaking and love zombie-ing thing for me.
The ex from when I was 18-21 was on bad terms with me for a year after the breakup but now we are back to being very close friends again. One of the only people who really gets me (he’s Aries, Aqua moon). When we communicate it’s this heightened mixture of metaphoric language, hyperexpression, inside jokes, zany culture references. It probably sounds completely incomprehensible to strangers! I think we both have very pronounced Peter Pan tendencies and that was the main bond. It is hard for me to find people I am attracted to because I like people who are strong yet still have this childlike quality…I cannot relate or trust to people that are TOO adult-y or take things very seriously.
I struggle with the too serious adult -y ones too (and I am in my 40′s), must be my aqua rising, I am just not attracted to them at all. I am finding that since my marriage ended a year or so ago that It makes the dating pool small but always interesting huh? Man children are irresistable to me, I have just met one guy who I like alot, I am hoping that his virgo sun means he is more grounded and earthy compared to my Libra Ex.
Waaahhhhh!!! That’s what I miss most. He got me. I’ve dated guys, I’ve gone loco over them, but none of them got me. I think I’m scared more than anything that I will NEVER find that again. You know, there’s this whole idea that someone better will always come along… But I used to work with old people, sometimes someone better doesn’t come along. I mean, no doubt, I will find someone who will treat me better and will probably be better looking and have their shit together but I might never come across someone who connected with me like that. Goddamn love zombie talk.
I also am guilty of going for the boyish types and find it hard to find people I am attracted to.
it’s ok, it comes in waves. when you’re in the thick of it, you’re there. it’s delicious- you FEEL. then it passes. huge hugs xoxox
Totally detached since the beginning of February.
Although I did meet someone where the connection was there but he turned out to be a total total idiot.
Someone I would of dated maybe 3 years ago. But the connection ahhhh whyyyyyy! Sorry but intelligence and ability to hold conversation is on top of the list.
Thanks Venus Aqua for taming my otherwise deluded Venus in Pisces.
Detached and moved on, Neeeeexxxxxxxxxttttttt
Occured to me Uranian Scorp is like Venus and Mars in Aqua since both conjunct Uranus in his chart. Its strange how I can learn a lot about a person without really interacting or experiencing with them. I know without proving that sex is nothing intimate to Uranian Scorp. I got to see where a lot of kinky behavior would lead me without trying it. Learned I really am out for intimacy and connection and those aren’t gotten by just being “open” or whatever. He’s not the one for me.
I think I’m going to quit. Have a lead and two points of contact for some work closer to home. No agency can evolve past the personality of it’s CEO. Time for mento move on and let the haters hate.
yes!!! OBVIOUSLY you are going to quit- bs boss relationship is replay though i’m sure different of awful dad relationship. you are worth SO MUCH MORE and you do not need to take anyone’s orders/passed down power trip. you are free, and you are powerful and scary beyond belief. and you are your own boss, period. yay you!!!
Thanks, love!! I just want to make it through the full moon without getting over-emo on some asshat at work. Wish me luck!
WOW. How did i miss this earlier? I agree: you’re bigger than this workplace.
Because when I started commenting about Uranian Scorp your eyes glazed over?
I am not being an LZ. I just want to make it through the next 10 days and get to the other side of the full moon….xoxo
good luck!
Thanks!
good luck, and don’t let the bastards drag you down! xoxox
i dropped another class today. it just felt so pointless and unnecessary. i ching said something about seeing from a vantage point and not being blinded by ambition and ego. the work is HERE, inside, ongoing. real.
i had once read somewhere that the intimacy level of a relationship is determined by the one with the lowest investment of intimacy.
. sort of a bummer for people that really know how to be intimate…
If I knew how to be intimate, I’d be intimate with someone, you know? Its interesting that I am obsessive, but like to stay detached in my own way too. Keep going for the crush that is unavailable myself. I get really down on myself for not having more sex or being attracted to more people sexually, but sex in and of itself means nothing. He knows that better than anyone. He’s all technique, but no intimacy. He was actually scared by the idea of hooking up with me since I am a “real” woman and he’s never been with a “real” woman before. Obviously, there’s loads of projection going on in terms of what’s real. I admire he’s ability to stick to only the most physical of experiences. He has a simple and sane philosophy as far as philosophies go, and there is something simple and grounding about it. BUT – his philosophy doesn’t work for me. I’m learning to be more human and less idealistic.
I suspect Venus in Aqua is at first really cool and detached, but once they realize they are in love, freak out and get super clingy. But often they don’t realize they are in love until after the break up.
Yes ! My only aqua relationship went exactly that way . We were together for years and to tell the truth I always felt she had a take it or leave it attitude. I finally broke up with her after her not coming home for a week ! The aftermath was her pining madly for months and friends telling me how devastated she was. I still think WTF ? ???
im not sure but for them it may be like boiling a lobster slowly..heating the water a little at a time, getting them used to the heat. Then bam! they are boiling and don’t really know it.
and gods/goddess help you if you change anything besides freaky stuff…
thankfully of all the Aquas i have dated only one had a venus in aqua and only he required a cross country trip before he figured out he was in love with me still. but by then it was too late because of the breakup.
Venus in Aqua could only be clingy if no risk the love object would be present. Aquarian intimacy requires so much space that intimacy may only be achievable as an imaginary act, and therefore timeless. They’re never in or out of it – you see. chaos.
Deadly accurate. Multiply by 10 when combined with Gemini Mars.
yeah they are not fans of actually telling someone they love them. you have to figure it out.
and i shouldn’t talk being venus in virgo because we also do not announce things like that but you should feel deliciously smothered in earthly pleasures, like your fave meal, your laundry scented and folded, your back rubbed,…..
i was going to protest but i guess that might be my Sag Moon or Ascendent. I’m never afraid to tell someone i love them, nor am i expectant. To me, it’s a fact. A glorious and fun fact.
i have sag asc too so im not afraid to tell someone i love them, but certain signs like to tell you all the freaking time. its unnerving and weird to me. im not used to being assailed with sonnets.
Dated a singer once who would just drop to his knees in the street and start serenading me in public. SUCH a turn off. That might be the Aqua Venus talkin’ too…
“A glorious and fun fact”
Ha. Funny! My Saggo Sun and Sag Ascendent old flame use to express his feelings then add: “It’s 100% true!
Cute!
Oh I think I understand your ex David. I mean, that does sound a tad extreme, but… I’m Aqua Venus and in my dream home for a dream relationship we would keep separate rooms. There is not a scrap of clingy or needy in me, yet I’m the guy who waited it out for 11 years over a guy before I eventually gave up. When I have been in love it is absolute and fundamental, I don’t need phone calls, regular body contact or even to live in the same city, it is as if loving this person is just something I do. It’s a core value, if you like. So even if we seem detached or totally autonomous, our loving is still very real and authentic and it is still earth shattering to lose it.
xx
i have no aqua venus but im sun conjunct uranus and the idea of a dream home with separate rooms appeals to e
me. As i used to say in high school. i would like to live across the street from my husband.
Across the street! My husband sulked for over a week when i seriously mentioned living next door. ( i thought it was a loving idea.)
i do too! no more being woken uo by snoring! being secluded in my secret lab aka kitchen! plus where are we going to put all the books?!
Across the street! Love it! Even better!
The Cap part of my was being economical, but heck, if we’re talking DREAM stich, then yes, why not – let’s have our own houses!
Now I feel terrible .O M G she did love me ! Hmmm , maybe ? She must of , you know how lovable I am x
By he way I’m no suffocater either. Lots of space is good, but in the end I realized it was always more a friendship than a love affair, I think that’s very aqua.
Heartbreaker
I get this, Lex, and i always feel really cross on behalf of poor Aquarians when people make out they’re emotionless, like robots. Aquarians are extremely sensitive.
Here! Here! Thanks Millie we Aqua’s do have emotions & aren’t heartless.
I am surrounded by Venus in Aquarius men ! aaaaargh!
I noted this pattern whilst musing over a string of exes,all with V inAqua.
My beloved son is an Aquarian, venus and mars also in aqua.
Im guessing just quietly, he wont be around to look after me in my old age.
So many of the men in my life sooner or later are revealed to be Aquavenuses.
My last ex is a Piscean Aqua-Venus was Intoxicating when he was there, but completely incommunicado when he left the premises..off with other friends in another space.
Im a quadruple Scorp with Sag ascendant~ Sun is in 12th house- perhaps thats like a fake Venus Aquarian thing ie. hidden depth mistakenly interpreted as cool detachment.. Moon, Mercury and Neptune also in Scorp).
I ask myself what am I doing attracted to and surrounded by these charming Aquavenus men ? And what are they doing with little Scorpio me?
Perhaps Im attempting to develop a relating strategy for my 19 yr old son and me,
or.. Simple. I lost my father at age 11 years and so am a
classic textbook case riddled with abandonment issues. Venus in Aquarians are so independent they are rarely physically there (in Scorp terms ) like perhaps the energy of my absent father and me. Scorps do not detach from intimate relationships easily/ Aqua venus dont attach easily .
hmm healing can be light and fun with Aqua in Aquarius and then they are gone like it never even happened.
Answered your own question beautifully there Nicola. Before I read about your father I was going to say – sun in twelfth – absent father – attracted to men who are…….well……….absent!
Good luck with it all.
Ex is Venus in Aqua…very detached.
I’m having a bit of a love zombie relapse today…ugh. So NOT Venus in Capricorn or Saturn retrograde in 7th house appropriate. Coincided with popping an adderall yesterday to get some work done. I was doing so well! Had a leftover stash in the house but hadn’t touched it in like a month, but I guess that this proves how susceptible you are to falling on your face when you think you’re hot shit and have it all under control!
Tomorrow night I’m going to an NA meeting and a writing group…isolation kills and I need to make sober/creative friends and connections, even if they are just casual or for the moment. Flushed the pills for good, I’m not taking any risks during Mercury retro in Pisces or the crazy moon coming up. No way.
Go girl! Saturn loves a plan.
quitting adderall cold turkey is known to cause depression, depending on how long you’ve been taking it. a gradual dose reduction can help minimize withdrawal symptoms (sadness, apathy, fatigue, etc.). maybe consult with a psychiatrist who specializes in ADHD treatment while you’re in the process.
Yes, I was definitely extremely depressed when I first quit and then I got really happy! I was exercising, had some bodywork done, felt my real goals come back into sight, not a love zombie. And now I still feel kind of blah after doing it even once the other day! It makes you tense…with me I was conflicted and thought that dose reduction may not be the answer so I just quit. I think that while the depression was brutal for a long and torturous time it does get better if you just wait it out and cold turkey can be possible. I think it depends…but yes, the initial withdrawl off months of use was brutal.
Yeah, it never becomes a physical need, but the psychological effects can potentially make even a previously well-adjusted person feel almost suicidal. I guess I’m just way too much of a chicken to deal with that kind of discomfort if I know there are other options. LOL! Good that you’re staying social. Hanging out with a friendly dog or cat can help too.
Yes! I have always been a depressive person but the involuntary suicidal thoughts and sense of utter hopelessness are not a thing to gamble with! That’s why I told myself that I needed to go cold turkey, I needed to stop completely or I would just keep circling back.
Now I’m aspiring to be one of those the-world-could-come-crumbling-around-me-and-I-would-be-fine tough broads that doesn’t drink or use but is a coffee and gum fiend. I love those kinds of ladies…always inspirational and loving in a no BS way and have the most hilarious stories.
I dunno your history with pills but I hope wherever you are at that you are happy and safe.
Good work!
Venus and mercury conjunct in Aqua (Pisces Sun), very detached. More than my Venus in Pisces husband would like. But my Venus is square Neptune and that’s where I do believe I have love zombie tendencies,
I have natal venus in aqua. Not a lz just a guy that can pull a string and draw LZ’s. not a good thing. it seems they search for moi, feel sorry for em they are so damaged and will not listen to sage advice. I don’t even know what is wanted save a bit of attention. or a simple wistful gaze of acceptance.
oh yeah there is a cappy sun and mars in libra.
Cap man i know has both Venus and Mars in Aqua. Devoted to his wife but with Scorpio Moon has wild and crazy Capricorn Pan energies vibing off him. Yet with the Aqua Mars Venus he doesn’t seem to attach to it all. He is very popular with women but apart from his grace and genuine care, is not LZ at all, like you. He will help you but only help you to stand tall by yourself, which sounds like your sage advice.
Interestingly, a small friction is caused by his total uncompromising need to have his buddies and his buddy time, while his wife just wants him to give her all that time.
His buddy time and my alone time prolly a mutual need to clean up the inside’s (soul) or something. Though I have a virgo moon.
I’ve been enjoying the anti-Love Zombie zone. There are still some hurt feelings and twinges of wishing things were different but mostly it’s been refreshing to be in a place of “oh well that’s done, I’ll take my memories and go on with my life now”.
ps. Natal Venus (and Sun and Mars) in Taurus.
I am on hold cuz gov cut off my payments makes me feel like a Love Zombie.
Last year I turned a guy into a Love Zombie. I had great chemistry with this guy at work, we flirted in an elevator once and he confessed he thought i had the best personality. then he let slip that he has a wife, so I went cold so he could back off and that’s when he got obsessed with me. He would tell everyone how great i was. He would follow me around the office and constantly stare at me, and stay back at work to leave at the same time as me, I would eat at my desk and he would say, smells good, and the food smells good too. I was leaving so i ignored it. Then one day he stood over me behind me and inhaled my scent. His manager saw it and called him into a meeting and told him to stop. He then confessed to me that he had feelings and didn’t want me to leave in front everyone. I was mortified and glad to be leaving cuz I would of had to file a sexual harassment suit against him.
Ps he was a virgo
Maybe it’s Saturn just gone retrograde, maybe the Moon on Jupiter rn, or maybe it’s all the Neptune workin on me, but I’m learning to embrace Love Zombie-ism. I get soooo much inspiration for my work from it. And I kinda like the crazed love-sick bitch thing. It’s great if no one’s getting hurt. Well, except me, emotionally. But that’s how inspiration’s made. So, yeah.
INSANEly optimistic. Woo.
Me too!! Embracing it.
It can be inspirational and music sounds better too.
Natal Neptune conjunct Sun. Venus in Libra.
Neptune trine Mercury (I do writing), Venus in Aries, and a ton of Pisces. It’s probably the Neptune.
lol, you two are funny
and Tropic, I also have Scorp Sun and Venus in Libra natally….and JUST realised that that VinL might fuel a tendency to LZism….you prolly worked that out aeons ago!
Yes, I saw you had venus in LIbra on another post somewhere.
Yep, totally aware that my LZism comes from my venus in Libra. I’m a sucker for a beautiful face and such a romantic.
Cap Asc keeps things from getting out of control though. I’m equally as pragmatic.
Where’s your moon???
I have moon in Taurus and Taurus rising….
Just realised our gravatars feature birds!
oh, and I love birds too…if I could figure out how to make a gravatar, it might be a bird
go to gravatar.com It’s easy.
thanks! I will be back shortly….
I have been very good re any LZ behaviour up until last week. New job means i’m back on gmail chat and old friend is there chatting…
He has been having dreams about me. I used to always analyse his dreams for him when we worked together but now he is telling me about his sexy dreams about me. VERY HARD TO CONCENTRATE…..
Totally can’t see how it would ever work, he has a new baby with the love of his life. There was/is sexual tension there but we are good friends more than anything. His Mars smack bang on my Chiron in my 7th house in aries…. My Jupiter right on his scorp moon. His Mars Aries is sextile my venus Gemini. Both Cancer Suns, yeah i haven’t analysed it much.
It’s only been a week, I’m sure he’ll stop dreaming about me and stop telling me about them…in the meantime it is incredibly frustrating…..
p.s. my mars is in aquarius.
he needs a gmail chat smack in the head for that kind of talk with a new baby on the scene. why are you entertaining this creep?
I have major LZ tendencies and always have had. Just in the last year or so I got over the worst LZ experience I ever had. But lately, the LZ vibe is looming again, with a new person…… So I guess Venus transiting in Aqua conjunct my Sun has fired up my LZ tendencies instead of cooling them off…. I guess maybe that’s because Venus brought a new potential love interest into my life, which I have not had in a VERY long time…we’re talking years… So far it’s just ‘potential’, though, it’s not going anywhere yet, but I’m kinda interested, and starting to think about this guy and the possibilities a lot…..thing is, gotta remember, ‘if it ain’t happening, then it ain’t happening’, you know?
I’m not completely sure where this general LZ-ness generates from in my chart. I’m Aqua Sun, Venus in Cap….should be all good there, no LZ…..BUT, I have Neptune in the 5th house, which is supposed to potentially create un-requited love scenarios….which believe me, it has….ALL my life…..
Also have a bunch of stuff in Pisces — Moon, Mars, Chiron, MC — and I have Crab rising, and my Venus is in opposition to that.
It’s just weird, because I don’t see any aspect that just SCREAMS LZ, unless I’m missing it, but being an LZ has been a major theme in my life. I must be overlooking something…
I think the take-away, finally, to play out Neptune in the 5th in a better way, is to focus on my own art and music and stop falling in love with musicians.. I’ve been practicing guitar a lot lately and singing, so I’m going in the right direction, I think.. I grew up training in classical ballet (Mars in Pisces exactly conjunct the MC) and was highly focused and disciplined in my art at that time, and I need to tap back into a bit of that, not with ballet, too old now, but with my music….
….would sure be nice to have a lover, though, too…..but the universe won’t give one to me unless I’ll be able to control myself, I think….and the way my mind has already been going about this guy, I guess I’m not ready…. I’ll probably never be ready, then….I’m already 45 years old… arrested development, I think, in the romantic realm…
Natal Venus in Aqua in 7th. Buuuuuut Kataka moon & rising, there used to be a fight internally ALL the freaking time. So, Neptune transit that went on forever I was a LL but thank fuq that’s all over because these days as a reformed LL I run a mile or pick their wings off when it gets stale/too hard/or controlly. I don’t take any crap from anyone now but especially me. I’d love to be an adult performer but I’d want to run the whole show lol.
oh totally Mystic. I might also have other extenuating circumstances. but regardless, it’s like I am phobic about emo entrapments. Have mentioned this in a few posts earlier somewhere: the prospect of descending into anything remotely resembling the End Of Days emotional chaos with the Neptunian Toro (i.e. anything that feels or looks like emotional attachment of any sort) makes me instantly drop whatever feelings am holding and scrub my metaphorical hands with intent and a lot of metaphorical hot, soapy water. I remember almost eavesdropping on a conversation on a man I am/was/might be involved with, then catching myself – wheeled away from eavesdropping position with self-disgust, and clearly recall thinking “The most important thing is not giving a shit.” lololol seriously if someone likes me, it’s the 21st century – he can engage that competitive male ego / hunting instinct of his and find me. And then prove his worth / awesomeness to me somehow. Otherwise, I’m busy.
not to say I am going to sit in a throne while he performs tricks for me until I throw him a bone, you know, i am capable of engaging with a man, it;s more a case of something being completely worth my time and attention / energy.
I hear you – I’d rather cut my arm off before walking into the LZ dungeon again. Yes, the best is to affirm “Otherwise I am busy”
Aqua sun with Venus in Cap. Had a lovely impromtu weekend hookup and am feeling totally relaxed about it. Birthday today and received from family an exquisite, fine and almost weightless pendant. Something I have had my mind on getting for some time, to refine and divine my image, since I am otherwise the no jewellery Aqua. Definitely enjoying Venus in my sign.
Happy birthday, Mitra
Happy happy Big big B day to youoooooo
Thank you, Leogroooover
Thank you, Mille
…sorry, that was me. I seem to have turned brown during my o/s trip. I rather preferred my pink/purple former self
Happy birthday Mitra!,
How funny; my birthday was yesterday and I’m natal Venus in Cap too.
Likewise I cannot really do body adornment except for ludicrously deliberated tattoos..
But my jewellery avoidance probably wont be evolving as yours, as my fabulous family presented me a gas barbie..albiet a camping compact model, but still rather weighty.
Even ‘large clock’ style around the neck a’la Chuck D might be stretching it with this baby…
Thank you, Aquarium I hope the family got you the gas barbie on a tip off!!
‘a tip off’ ?? Haha… No…
from actual reality..
The folks are just across the creek and I’d been using theirs a lot of late.
I love to cook kinda paleo with sheaves of sage and rosemary..multitasking..
fantastic flavours AND it symbolically keeps all of those chemically spirits and wotnot at bay
and I Love how the universe can sometimes conspire together to provide..my other present was a lucky 7 pack of different coloured undies..
I’ll grab my daughters textile textas and letter the days of the week on ‘em..
that’ll sort me for this Virgo full moon…
oh.. I forgot…
I DID get something nice I reckon from the astro universe…
My namesake asteroid Nike visited my natal Sun with a conjunction within minutes or even seconds…great…
I’ve got a fair bit on so I’ll interp that as a bit of a lucky pendant for the year…
As a Piscean, a 5th House of Romance etc Sun/Merc/Chiron, plus all that 12th House Moon Neptune Jupiter you might say i have the potential to be LZ.
But I’m Venus in Aqua and Mars in Cap.
When I’m in love i adore them, but will not baby anyone and do not like being hounded. The space to grow and explore is vital and a good partner will do that beside me. I also cannot stand a man who has no compassion for the marginalised, and does no good works or charity. My partner is someone who can teach me something (Venus in Aqua 3rd house), open my mind to something new.
I work hard at maintaining a relationship and give my all (mars in cap) but when i don’t love anymore it is exactly over that minute, and all the fire and frustration that may have built while struggling to overcome an issue evaporates. They think it is just in that minute but a long time of doing my best comes before that moment, under the surface. They think it’s a sudden decision, but what is sudden is the calm and clarity.
Then i pack, divide the spoils generously (next time i might not provide like an old fashioned man for my lover), arrange emotional assistance for them and go. I don’t stay in touch as i no longer have an interest. I’m a 12th houser and i can see all i want to see in the man across time and space. News of an ex that i hear from people, unasked, never surprises me.
Venus Uranus in Mutual Reception (Venus Aqua trine Uranus Libra). Apparently unconventional or unexpected pairings, according to friends and fam. Also sudden
Venus in Aquas unite!
I will not baby!
I do not own!
I am no drama!
Be yourself! Do what you like! No need to call!
How is this not an AMAZING offer?!!!!!!!!!
It is, and they know it. Do you find people get a bit sticky? (no lewd meaning here, i’m thinking fly paper)
Mind you, Lex, the no drama bit may be more you, as you’re a lovely dignified Cap with all that Virgo…earthy…all the dirt without the drama
I’m Piscean Sun in the 5th which trines my 12th house Neptune Moon and Jupiter, plus Leo MC…ummm, possibly give Callas a run for her money when i get going? *blush* er…add Merc in Aries opp Uranus and sq Mars…maybe Maria Callas didn’t swear as much.
Sticky ! I mean really ! I’ll give you sticky miss cucumber pants !
’tis true – I am a fistful of trines.
But no, fly paper i am not, sadly. Or maybe a blessing in disguise…?
I do think a lot of people’s idea of love is a combination of sexual attraction + obsession (ie, dramatics), so perhaps making things too easy and melodrama free doesn’t really serve you that well.
Venus in Aqua too, and I am just like this – all my Cap stuff means I give my all but when it’s done that’s it, I truly don’t give a fuq, no need to be friends or whatever. Mostly because I am just bored. It’s when I start predicting their behaviour that it becomes tedious and just vanishes into, well, thin air. I am like this with friends too. I have done several ‘midnight flits’ from groups of friends over the years, just got in the car and driven away after a night out and never seen any of them again. Aqua is my 6th house and yes I am like this with jobs too, although these days I am better at not burning bridges. A girl’s got to eat
My Aqua Venus is square Neptune and square Jupiter so there have been some horror stories lol
Husband-on-the-ex-spectrum has Venus in Aqua too, exact conj mine. I suspect he is gay… he has Neptune rising in Scorp so really he could be a creature from the planet Sex-o-Rama, but I wouldn’t know. I don’t mean this as a criticism, but he can’t do sex with someone he cares about. For him it’s all about the hidden, the secrets, the compartmentalising of identity. I like pyrotechnics but my loaded Cap and Pisces need straight-up ethics AND the depth of spiritual transformation. None of these things need mean ‘commitment’ in its conventional sense. Hard to explain, not sure I’ve done it well but other Venus in Aquas will know what I’m on about
Yes, i do, but i can’t explain it either. I am committed and loyal. But mentally i can detach to ‘see’ the qualities, positive, negative and all the shades. Critical cool thinking, super hot heart.
Like Lexicorn says, Be yourself! Do what you like! That’s the intriguing thing about a person, but i can decide whether it suits me at the time.
“News of an ex that i hear from people, unasked, never surprises me.”
Ha ha! Me too!!
Well, not true. When I heard (years ago, before he and I had reconnected) that Sag soul connection had a daughter (born a few months after I mine) and he named her the same name as I named my daughter – that synchronicity surprised me. I had a dream about him last night. I don’t ever want to see him again, so I hope its no omen. I may spend a lot more time trying to “make it work” in my Neptune-square-Venus deluded way (took me 20 years to get over him), but, like you, when its done, its done.
definitely a distinct level of detachment as she gets along in aqua. much better now that venus is aspecting my male bucket chart and not my female t square- those emotions are tricky things. i don’t miss them when they’re gone! really though, the most exciting aqua venus development is a new girlfriend, she is the coolest person i’ve met in a good long while, has the same pluto (so a compatriot for the square!), and aqua venus and moon in my critical degrees. so happy about this- my besties are always 6 degree leos and i wanted, no NEEDED an aqua friend. oh happy day!
Venus in Libra 11th waiting for Zap from Aries Uranus in 5th. Calm before the storm?
I’m about to get that hit too, not sure what to expect yet.
Funny, I’m super close to two Venus in Aquas and they’re both mental when it comes to love. Both always in very secure long term relationships but need a constant supply of extraneous attention or they get very dramatic, affairs, secret liaisons etc. Love them but it drives me nuts.
Unfortunately, one Love Zombie in my life was a guy with an Aquarius Venus. I think what did it was his super-tight opposition from Pluto in Leo. The guy was very romantic and committed, and did just about anything for the women in his life (as well as TOLERATE just about anything). I had to recommend Codependents Anonymous and Alanon for his affliction.
I do admire his sense of adventure (enjoyed moving, living abroad thanks to being career military) and ability to get along with all types of people despite his sheltered upbringing. And, he seemed the most happiest when romancing exotic women.
On the flip-side, I have Venus conjunct Uranus in Libra. It’s the next-closest thing to having Venus in Aqua by virtual of Libra also being an air sign!
My love life: a little distance though lots of warmth; people from far, far away; fun times abroad & in places far, far form home; loved whoever I wanted to and felt for despite diffs in age/occupation/ethnicity; been told I make the most interesting types of fun seem totally natural, and still don’t seem like a deviant.
This stuff trines my Ascendant. Yes, I have an unusual appearance (for an American anyhow) and people usually can’t guess where I’m from, even when I was living where I was born and raised. I do have a peculiar charm. I get along better with people far away. I’ve created some interesting writings and drawings (thank you, 5th house).
I’m unmarried, no kids, as the only things that keep me someplace is if I like it AND to pay off my college loans (hahhaha). As much as I like being in a (good) relationship, I’d rather be alone than be in a rotten one! I’ve puzzled my family and many friends being singleton, but now that my they are hitting the mid-life (and had their share of marital/domestic woes), they don’t think I’m weird at all.
Sounds pretty Venus in Aqua to me!!
Unfortunately, I am not immune to Love Zombie tendencies, waaaah
Though most of the time, I do bounce back a little sooner than most.
I know we are talking Venus in Aqua here, but can it be applied to Mars in Aqua too? Im reading these comments by peeps, and it totally reminds me of my Mars in Aqua ex…
I had a Venus in Aqua ex many years ago, and these two guys totally feel similar to me.
Any thoughts?
venus is going over my saturn right now, such a bummer, I have venus square neptune uranus, so its kinda like venus in aqua a bit I guess, I have never had a crush that I was like super in love with even though I wasnt interested, hypothetically, if someone was definitively not interested I would probably give up, but I can have crushes still, I just wont do anything about it, I dont really think most girls would want to go out with me, like, I do have an appeal and would come off super sweet, but thats such a hit or miss thing, either you wont even get a chance, or its just the type of guy they like, I mean I dont even know, but it feels like most girls wouldnt want to go out with me, I wont be clingy or anything, but I feel I would be mistaken for other type of guys who are like that, like they would maybe assume im a creep or something, I understand how irrational that is, but irrational or no, i definitely have a small market here, and no ability to perceive it, and if I did ask a girl out I would be visibly nervous about it, which wouldnt do me any favors either, I have been really hoping lately I see that girl I am basically in love with again, I would ask her out, im bound to see her eventually, but also I might not ever see her again, blerg
maybe when, like, everything is in pisces ill get lucky, if I would see her again any time it looks like it would be then, so thats something to look forward to
No this is good, i love that u are having a saturn venus transit? Saturn (Governent) ( money) venus.
Maybe wait and date a government offical….
You both would be so great at keeping up the status quo, maybe become a correction officer in one of amercias fine black privatized prison industries…
You guys could make a killing off poor blacks and rasie a huge selfish family like many americans today.
Also stop using aquarius just to get your head out of a relationship… How about out of the pockets of corrupt government. Or unconciously pandering to secret societys? Where is your aquarian objectivity for that?
Dont forget secret society scorpio and saturn dukin on your venus =money draniage….
Bummer yea….
I…. feel like there is a weird edge to what your saying… im American I guess, but, its not like im evil or even part of what everyone else is doing geez, im not an activist or anything, but im sure as hell not like everyone else, what are you trying to say?
also, IM an ethnicity with humble familial origins, if you wanna get racist about it
Its not like ive ever seen any uncle tom mexican CO’s
$ If ur not a person who gives a shit. About universal justice (Activist) please read the daily scopes in a fashion rag or newspaper..
so much more gemini moonish..
woh woh….. gemini…moon… aquascshit isss that youuu, oh my god its been so long, so glad to see you have upgraded to the race card, oh yes, you did go there, also, I read alternet too, you shit, and none of my mexican family is a co, im coming from el paso dirt poor ancestor wise, so fuck you, my race card has wayyyy more punched holes, even have enough I can redeem for scholarships
also, uncle toms cabin? what the fuck, seriously, back off the race thing, I am a fan of cornel west, ANNND the roots, so, yah, I know you love your shock value, but back off the race thing, seriously
Too bad u dont have u masonic tele anymore to help drown out the truth for u pisces u aint getting lucky its called getting real. But go a head and act like u always knew the TV was so. Like “sooo yesterday” and not an act of satinisim..do u have blone roots?
No just neptunian.. Big piscean shit talker.
No no
I was being glib, dumbass, I havent watched tv ever since netflix and hulu came out, and the occasional sitcom can NOT be equated to being brainwashed, and I DID know tv was sooo yesterday, so fuck you, and what do you mean satanic? masonic? get the fuck out of here, thats not even a good conspiracy theory, masons, phh, and what do you mean blone roots, what are you even saying anymore, your wasting your time/energy on the internet of something stupid, so your just as bad as me, also you dont even know me geez, I probably know more about societal issues then you, masonic satanic conspiracy theory is, like, 3rd grade level understanding of how the world is messed up, grow up
Yes pisces rules society..
I forgot, not those stupid fucking aquarians.
Bowing out of thy humble pisceans graces…
Hasnt mystic taught u anything else besides fashion related astrology?
Looks like u need another “thingto do”
dont make digs at mystic, and also I have saturn in aqua, if you want to get astrological about it, which means I am a pro at everything aqua, and big fucking deal what your sun sign is, get over yourself, sun sign has nothing to do with how stupid a person you are, or how petty, or mistakenly self important, your an aqua, I guess, but your not very good at it, keep telling yourself it makes you better and special, because it doesnt
No SA in aqua, it means ur challenged lacking till maturity… If that.
ya if your bad a t saturn, im not, otherwise its the pro planet, as in everything it touches gives a pro level potential, so fuck you, astrology, bitch
like seriously, your LITERALLY saying just because your sun sign is aqua you know more than me, you dont, you love making weird judgments about my gem moon, but it also means I read a shit ton, I assure you, I read way more than you do, and am much more well informed, I do know whats going on, in spite of this knowledge, we can both waste spare time on the internet, you cant feel superior about that when your just as bad
Right nobody can know more… Get it I KNOw aquarius motto thana gemini pompous ass superfical pop astrology parker brothersmoon.. Sorry astrology works so well thanks for the gemini moon pisces sun virgo ascendant test.
Jester and
Justice
Guess bothare needed.
your the only person I have ever assumed Iknow more then, because I do and you dont seem too bright,your the one resorting to pop astrology and assuming your better from a freaking SUN SIGN, and people can and do know more then me, just not you, because your a dummy, dummy, and its not cuz your aqua, your just dumb, see, its not always about astro, youd know that if you didnt resort to pop astro
I have natal Venus in Aqua. I have been a love zombie. It was excrutiating…..it was like my psyche was taken over by aliens. took two years before I shook it completely, now I have a horrible fear of any thing remotely resembling zombie hood. I also have a stellium in pisces tho. which explains how it happened, I think….so there you go.