Please help – i am completely confused by the actions of a Virgo man i have just met. He has nearly every planet in Virgo and i am a multiple conjunct Aries. He lives abroad, and I’m moving abroad in three weeks (I met him literally on his last night in town), we held hands and kissed (soooo innocent, but it was beautiful, like first love). When we met he had been flirting with me all night very obviously and when he had to leave to go back to his friend’s house (honest-to-God, for propriety’s sake, as they even texted him to ask if he was coming back that night), he blurts out that I have to get a layover in Germany, and upon realizing that wasn’t possible decided immediately he would come fly to me wherever I was as soon as possible.
Which is, I guess, NOT Virgo-like at all, but I could be wrong. All I know is, we were kissing, I felt this weirdly pure, perfect feeling, told him this (“I can’t stop kissing you”), he mumbled, “This is getting out of hand,” and quietly disengages himself, refuses to look at me, lets go of my hand last, and bolts. Anyway, this was about two months ago, and since then he writes me… every other Sunday. On-the-dot. I think one day he’d forgotten, because I got an email from him at what would have been 3AM Monday morning, 9PM Sunday mine. I’d tried writing him spontaneously in his language even, off-schedule, to try and spur something out of him… Nothing. I suspect he’ll be writing me in a few days, as this is an “every other Sunday” week. If he doesn’t, then that’s that.
How do I deal with this? I’m 100% on a schedule. He still talks about visiting me; his last letter was REALLY heavy on that. If he sparked when we kissed etc, I’ve honestly no idea at this point. I’ve never been pursued in this way before, if I even am. I’m used to Cancers, or any kind of fire sign in the chart, or… hell, even Pisces. Gemini. But what is this Virgo doing? Is he just feeling me out obsessively? Is he serious?
Dear Aries Amazon,
This seems to me to be blazingly obvious. Of COURSE Virgo likes you. You have made his schedule! Obviously, if you liked someone, you would swoop in Aries The Conqueror style to capture his heart and set out the parameters of his new life in the Ariesarchy but Virgo peeps are different. They don’t like to seem vulgar, forward or like they are assuming anything.
I know Virgos who don’t wear scent because they don’t like to impose. So why not just say you will be at X Destination on a certain date and suggest you meet? I think you should wait till April, when Mercury has cleared this Retrograde in his opposite sign – you don’t want to be part of his funk, you want to be part of the solution.
He is waiting for a “go” signal, yah? And Venus currently aspecting Uranus, Jupiter, Saturn et al (see your Horoscopes for more deets) makes now till Fri epic timing for such a strongly worded hint.
What does everyone else think?
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