Same Birthday Synergy Attraction?
Hey Mystic,
I know you’re busy, but just thought I’d ask you this random puzzling question…
What’s the deal with a romantic interest with someone who has the same birthday as oneself? Recently bumped into someone on a plane who is April 17 Aries like me (but a few years older)… There were a few sparks and it feels vibey.
Thing is I’ve been in a relationship before with someone else with same April 17 birthday. He was 4 years younger and it was years ago in my 20′s and it ended up being the awful Saturn return kind of break up.
So back to Mr Aries-on-the-plane… any theories on fraternizing with same-birthday romantic prospects?
Welcome your thoughts?
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Hey Aries_FTL,
So happy you are enjoying your subscription! Okay, this is an interesting question. Two couples offhand with same birthday – Christo & Jeanne Claude (you know the building wrappers) + Michael Douglas & Catherine Zeta-Jones. We explored their astrology and very PINK house here.
Personally i have met a few women born same day as me and really, really like them – instant rapport and familiarity but men born on the same day as me repel. One in particular almost gave me a nervous breakdown just from talking to him at a party for half an hour. He had some hideously annoying traits & I became convinced that they were in fact MY traits. He touched me on the arm to emphasize his stupid point and i shuddered. This may have been a bit extreme, i get that. You have to be v.careful how you do touchy-feeling with Aqua Rising peeps. Once i ducked someone coming in to try and hug me. I can also throw up a really good quick guard, from boxing
Now the thing is with same birthdays – it just means that your Sun and their Sun are conjunct – so you each stimulate each others solar powers, will to triumph, individuated self and self-expression. It’s nice synastry but hey we can do a LOT better than just Sun….the most intense interactions come when you’re looking at Sun on Mercury, Venus-Sun and it’s doubled – your Venus their Sun, their Sun, your Venus…Mars-Venus for ‘sexual napalm’ (see Sleazometer for a listing of the diff Mars-Venus combos), Pluto-Moon for when you really wanna go there…i could go on for hours with these things.
Sun-Sun synastry is but one aspect of a whole huge picture of different ways your can mesh (or not) with someone. There is also pure paleo chemistry – some people just smell good to you, remember – the olfactory nerve is in the nostrils and is the only nerve on the outside of the bod that goes straight to the reptilian brain.
So hey, with Mr April 17 Aries on the plane – go there! You’ve both just completed Saturn transits so will be way more suave than you were previously…And you are both Aries so this should be quite swift and direct, yes? And don’t judge potential future flings or relationships based on some learning growth passage shit that went down during your Saturn Return!!!!
What does everyone else think?
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mystic, you should maybe post some anecdotes just because, I just realized how interesting that would be, mystic stories, astro commentary along the way is just icing on the cake
also, I am kinda scared how I hear so many horror stories about lame pisces guys, but pisces girls seam to always be cool…. even from the people I know too, I can think of some pretty lame pisces guys, like, really lame, and all the girls were pretty cool people, ya, ill just pretend like that has nothing to do with me….. what? me? a pisces? no no….im…. other things, too, ya
Have known a few awesome, inspiring hard working, clever, dreamy Pisces guys.
Unfortunate fact is they get underrated and its the annoying ones we talk about more because they irk us for eons
Greetings David !
I am married to an expectionally bright, intuitive, compassionate, empathetic Piscean, whose only fault (i feel, apart form marrying an Aries who is incapable of looking after him when ill) is getting too carried away on the vino !
My first mentor after some horrific shite that went down (yessirree good ole saturn shite/wake up storm !) was a Piscean, he gave me a job, taught me screenprinting, took me under his fin, opened my eyes and heart again, and taught me sooo much i couldnt type it all. Its like he handed my scrambled knotted dark universe back to me aglow with magic, light, hope and wonderment.
Just yesterday i was talking astro with a lovely Katakan i have befreiended at my Aquarians school (who is close with her Aquarian son) we were joined by our fav Dad, and it turns out he is a Piscean too, heart of gold, and an absolute delight to be around. Sharp as wit, and able to leap tall buildings in a single bound, of that i have no doubt.
You are a beautiful young haute Piscean man David, and a delight to read, put that fav green tshir of yours on to give you back your super powers (even if its too cold and you have to wear under layers) !
Peace x
Nicest message ever, Cosmic
David, I have been (s)lain by excellent and alluring Piscean men on more than one occasion… they exist, you exist. Though, you got it, no one is as cool as my (Pi)scean girl bestie!!
” took [you] under his fin”
I thought that was cute too
wow, got me grinning and everything
I wish someone would take me under their fin and unscramble my universe!
To be fair, it is starting to unscramble by itself now that I’ve started getting enough sleep, nutrition and recreation.
But still, sounds lovely =) =)
My 3 closest friends as a young man were all Pisces.
Couldn’t have asked for better friends. Man we did some crazy wonderful things together. As the token Aries though I always went first . Yes, the test monkey.
my ex – pisces sun, pisces rising – love him so much – very talented, very good in bed, very kind to animals *sigh*
Gee my lovely deceased husband had Moon in Pisces and he was wonderful. Terrific, wierd sense of humor, very intelligent, and fab in bed. What else does one need in a partner? Not a lame male at all, just a bit different.
wow everyone, thanks for proving me wrong, ya know, this is a little community mystic has going, and I am so glad I am a part of it, you guys are great
Christo and Jeanne Claude are one of the cutest couples you could ever meet! The sun conjunction is definitely working for them!
I had this just recently, HOT chemistry and a common warmth, world view and artistic and business interests that we could have partnered in. I felt very comfortable with him. However, travel distance and age difference too much for me to want to pursue at this difficult time; at another time and in the same cities, quite possible. I reckon we have different sun signs too.
Isn’t there a thing, you know that “angle” that people go for repeatedly? You did a thing on some guy who went for girls with birthdays in the same week…was it Hugh Hefner or David Bowie or or someone?
I’ve noticed I always have paleo-chem with Geminis born between 19th-22nd May. Also my ex seems to be pursuing a liaison with a gal with my exact birth date. UGH.
I went out with three guys in a row with same birthday. Not on purpose. Think the universe was telling me something and I was too stupid to listen
Oh yes I have this with Caps born in the same week. I blame my Cap moon-Lilith-Eros-Juno-Magdalena conjunction, I call it my Cap force field. Cap husb; Cap good-friend-hoping-to-morph-into-FWB-but didn’t; Cap lover. Only 3 men in 15 years and they have birthdays within four days of each other. I’ve also collected many Cap female friends born that same week. Interestingly during Merc retro I’ve dissolved my attachments to all three men and feel freer than I have done in years. Another Cap born that week is sniffing around via fb. It’s a BIG no thanks from me
bless you x x
I’ve done a couple of runs of same birthday relationships -where the current guy would turn out to have a birthday within 3 days of the last one (s). None of these on purpose…
Also friends at different times of my life (and different geographies). While everyone’s different, there have been some interesting themes.
It’s kind of like a small karma reincarnation of that relationship again, without having to wait to be reborn. Thank goodness we get a second chance to “get it”.
To my knowledge I’ve never met anyone who was born the same day (of any year) as me. Ever. Maybe all April 5′s are highly driven to respect for each other’s privacy … ?
My cousin is 5th April , 1957. I’m the 12th a little younger.
My Nan was April 5th. Family matriarch. Complete dragon who managed to have the whole family running around doing her bidding. Died aged 99, complete with all her faculties, after a good meal and a brandy. God I miss the old witch.
I’m glad I’ve never ever met someone with my birthdate (in any year). I feel like its all mine.
In college I had mates born just before and just after so we would have combined cocktail parties for our birthdays. That was fun.
Well, I have a friend from school days (23 years ago) who was born a few hours before me and we’ve always had a type of sexual tension but I always felt this was stronger coming from him. Just this year we actually had a sexual encounter, not the whole shebang but a lusty blue hoochied “let’s just cross the frigging boundary already” type of thing. I am attached and knew that me being unfaithful would destroy my gorgeous partner so I drew a big fat line but it is obvious my friend and I have very similar abilities and desires. So, same Mars and Venus (same everything but rising sign) but not Mars-Venus and v.v. as in Sleezometer. I don’t particularly want to go there again, it was fun but it was more about releasing the tension for me. Postscript: Friend did tell me he’d always been in love with me and wondered if we were meant to be together. Personally I think it would be maddening to be attached to someone with mostly the same astro. Same day, different year could be completely different. I say if it feels right, do it. Your life is meant to be filled with experiences.
I was in a car crash with someone with same birthday many years ago.
We had both had a crappy week and both made the same impatient decision with resulted in the crash. That was the only other aqua with same birthday I’ve ever met
My co-librarian and I share the same birthday – she’s got Virgo rising and I have Scorp rising, so the library is hyperorganized and INTENSE. And glam- tons of books about Marilyn lately. I love that the person I’ve been sharing this space with for years and I get on like white on rice, mi on fan-
I had a brief thing and am still friends with a guy who’s birthday was the day before mine. (May 18th) Same year too. I tend to be indifferent with women who have the same birthday as me though. I know two. One the same year as well, the other a bit older.
New guy at work has my same birthday, five years later. His Virgo house is LOADED. If anything, the time spent working with him helped me realize how annoying Virgos can be. I mean, we chatted it up just great and he’s a good guy. But he’s such a martyr about his process and his way and blah…I get it – but I also got how immature it is and how I need to watch out for the same tendency in myself.
PS – never knew someone with the same birthday as me before – at least that I know.
1) MM I really love your quick synastry take above … I’ve had so many intense relationships with Sun-Merc conjunctions but some astrologers tend to suggest these are “mind only” … maybe I’m a more mind-oriented person but these have tended to be big loves, not just intellectual dalliances.
2) I had a big early relationship with a man three days off my birthday (plus several years) and have always attributed the intensity to fact that I’m on cusp of Leo with two Leo planets, he was on cusp of Cancer with Cancer planets … like we each got the taste of the other side a little more strongly by interacting with each each other’s suns.
Also had a very strong early friendship with a woman born two days after. We had many personal similarities, career path, relationship issues, and one shared boyfriend.
Both these were “younger” relationships though, mid-teens through early 20s … maybe Sun is more important at that age when we are individuating??
Plus there is a thing with inner planets (Venus Mars Merc) tending to be within range of the Sun by only a couple of signs so maybe it’s not just same birthdate but as MM suggested there are also inner planet connections being activated?
Love this trail, great insights.
I have a Leo Sun and I love Leo men and women – especially if they are born on my birthday! How vain is that?
Or maybe as the sun is at home in leo there is element of enjoyment other signs might not have in each other sun’s?
My first boyfriend was born same hospital several hours apart! Okay that didn’t work. We are still friendly though.
A very intense non-affair with a married guy born a day after me.
We are devoted pen friends and have spent no more than 6 months in the same country – but it’s just plain old love.
We have so much in common, I am moon in scorp & he is moon in pisces, so we trine where we don’t conjoin.
His friends said, “OMG you’re a female version of him!”
Had a Danish friend born within 30 hours of myself, she was great but a little bit mad. She ended up the seventh woman in the life of an aboriginal shaman who entranced her. Yeah, it wasn’t good.
Our Suns are all conjunct. Our Mercury, Venus and Saturn’s are in a stellium all conjunct too.
i’ve heard that when two people in a relationship share the same sign, one will embody that sign and the other the polarity (e.g sag and gem). similar with twins (whose charts will be identical or close to)
it would have to be an aries woman that are the only woman that can handle an aries man
but …I can honestly say thats the exact way how I feel about pisces men, tho. i would definitely date conjunct birthdays but only if he was really good looking ..lol. i did date someone that was born a lil after midnight but he wasn’t good looking enough so i dumped him within an hour. ugh! just the thought of him made me cringe. we still keep in touch after all these years (junior high friends) btw.
My first thought was its like astro incest ! Euwww . Then I remembered a strange statistic. That in any random group of 30 ? people , say a chunk of a soccer crowd or something..at least 2 people will have the same birthday. So maybe it’s not such a strange event.
It’s the late April thing that interests me.
Interesting bunch of people.
David, my Aries beau is April 18, with merc aries and mars cancer like you. How’d you turn out? Heh heh
yes – was trying to drudge up that mathematical fact – its actually very common to share a b-day.
being that my mother and oldschool bestie are born on the same day I have this ultra weird ability to collect people born on my birthday and I know a large collection of people born near, a day either side and exact. I have jokingly sited being raised by my mother and a scorpio sister as setting the magnetic field for this. Never has it been sexual and very few guys around that time I have known well or been attracted to at all, but I can say this of most Scorpios tbh. Met a couple of guys around that date I have really not liked and they show no real traits of the ones I have with my bday girls. Much more wet and sulky-ish manipulative.
I have in the past done a few large orb conjunctions with early Saggo’s as my Sun is at the very end of Scorpio and my Moon is 7 degree Sagg and that was a thing I did accidentally for a while to date 1st week sagg’s but my best relationships to date have been with awesomely aspected Leo planet people despite my all in sagg moon,venusnept and Dsc.
Really big on paelo smell. I have wandered into many arms just based on that. Sniff him. lol
did have a couple of lesbian encounters actually, one I remember she pinned me against the wall and forced my head up into a wall on the night we hooked up and I thought oh no we are both the same this won’t work lol
this was done in matching jackets
Amazing!
I have a question that’s been bugging me for ages that’s sort of tied into this. I’ve been reading up on conjoined twins, and it seems that a common theme is their very different personalities (as in from one sibling to the next). How does this work astrologically? Given they’re born at the same time and place exactly? I mean your standard twin might be born a few minutes apart (and we all know the stories about twins living similar lives, and having similar tastes who have never known each other). Obviously conjoined twins are going to have very similar lives, but if their tastes and their personalities are noticeably divergent…? Does anyone have any thoughts on this?
damn fine question Kels – I’m a fraternal (non-identical) twin with my 10 mins younger sister…I think our charts are almost identical…and yet we have repelled each other for the better part of our whole lives…we’re Saggo Sun, Scorp Rising and Moon in Virgo…with Scorp in Venus and Mars…she has no drive, no ambition, no vision and is content to settle and not evolve/grow…we have nothing in common and never have…we have spoken much in two years and I couldn’t be happier…it pains me that it’s like that but I had been compromising my emotional health to have her in my life for too long…maybe it’s got to do with one twin doing the haute/high part of the signs and the other doing the low qi side? Beats me either way!?
Wow weird synchronicity (or not weird?). Just watched a documentary on conjoined twins today and asked myself the same question. The answer I came up with is FREE WILL. The twins I observed were born under the sign Pisces, and you could observe that they were both sweet, caring, compassionate types. But they had different preferences and opinions because, hell, they have two different brains! And they can think whatever they want and one thought leads to another…interesting side note, i also watched a news brief on fraternal twins separated at birth who later met…and married eachother! They only found out soon after that. Ewwwwww creepy!
Yes an author friend said that apparently many siblings, if separated early on and then reunited as adults, will find themselves attracted to each other- though she does have a bit of an incest fetish. I agree about the free will thing too. Plus it makes total sense for conjoined twins (or any twin forced into close company with each other) to want to differentiate themselves from each other, and the differences I’ve heard of seem to be quite polar, like introvert to extrovert. I’m assuming polarities would operate in every star sign, though I’m yet to meet an introverted Leo. I guess in the end the universe places us within a particular constellation of gifts and its up to us to choose how to (or if to) make use of them. Bossfine, if you get a chance, have a read of ‘One of Us: Conjoined Twins and the Future of Normal’ by Alice Dreger. It’s brilliant.
Oh, thanks for the recommendation. I simply can’t get enough of this type of society-shaking phenomenon (think how many laws have to be adjusted because of a person being both 1 and 2…the madness!). And so true about introverted Leo…I know a Leo who seems a little shy and soft spoken but at the same time has a very dramatic look to her, she really stands out. They always find a way!
I only met one guy with the same birthday as me. Of course, being Virgoes that meant we were totally different and so not typical
Joke aside – he was extremely weird to everyone but I could appreciate his weirdness but that’s it. No special connection …
Interesting post. My maternal grandmother and I had the same birthday – always loved her +++, felt we had a special connection. I still have her engagement ring diamond – wear it most days. Even tho I’ve been robbed since she gave it to me, somehow it was always – on my finger – in for re-setting – safe somehow. Her picture is at the entrance to my flat – she’s my guardian spirit for sure.
My granddaughter was born on my 53rd birthday. Even though she was due on Aug. 18th I just knew from the time I found out about my daughter’s pregnancy that she would be born on my birthday, Aug. 26th. I do feel a special connection to her. I hope i’m around long enough to guide her and help her avoid some of the mistakes I’ve made.
I know 3 couples of same birth date and they have been the happiest weirdos I know.
Aries couple who did the most intense research into conceiving a child and not in a fun lets shag everywhere kind of way but let’s smash medical science and get our radical little Leo bambino.
Former room mates Scopio couple who made no noise what so ever, no conversation, music, tv, pots and pans clanging etc but were happy as clams.
Saggo couple who roam the globe being experts in outdated yet modern engineering fields, living on house boats, walking cats on leads, rocking up to fancy parties with royalty wearing two left shoes and random assortments of whatever happened to be in the suitcase.
I’m an Aqua moon and also did the most amazing ninja move to get out of awkward physical contact cuddle/ kiss with a man I used to be PA for at a funeral that he nearly went face first into the ground due to his height. I felt like an asshole for embarrassing him but it was a massive breech of my personal space code.
I met a beautiful Irish man a while back… We had kissed briefly before our oaths were parted. When I became his friend on fb, I discovered he had not only the same birthday (coincidentally, April 17!) but the same year! Needless to say, we eventually crossed paths again and had a short, but very… fulfilling affair. Go for it! We are Aries!
that’s cool
I’ve never been attracted to anyone on my birthday but my older half brother and i have the same birthday 4 years apart and have been best buds since i was wee. He’s the best! Other people with my birthday I’ve been a little “meh” about but still liked. But born the day before me or the day after= for some reason you are my best friend
I’ve met quite a few people with the same birthdate – 1st October – none born in my year though (1964)
The only connection I feel is the fact all of our parents got randy around Christmas / New Years nine months earlier !
No same day love encounters. I’m generally repelled by Scorpio men in a sexual way, Scorpio women on the other hand have been the great loves of my life, spent years collecting a whole bunch and seem to be particularly fond of the ones born in my birth month. Never same day though.
My fav same day lovers would have to be Marina Abramovi? and Ulay Laysiepen, both Nov 30th but three years apart, a fascinating relationship. Two Sags, mental.
I do however have certain dates that I’m attracted (friends and loves), in particular people born on the 12th of April and the 23rd of October. Must be something about those degrees of Aries, Libra/Scorpio that spark off my planets in those signs.
I have an exact birthdate different year cancer (July 20) and we are awesome in bed but dangerous! It is like the movie “Hancock” we break walls and hurt ourselves physically in the process! Can’t stay away though! Even if all is on the line! Covert is taboo but delicious!
Massive attraction to Sagg men born 4/6/8/16th December all 6’2” of each of them, so perhaps the height not the astro
Best synergy is with Caps, my rising sign, ambition & money versus freewheeelin’ & broke perhaps.
Oooh, good day to be reading up on synastry as I’m totally distracted by a crush and getting kinda stalky with it…
But how’s this:
His moon exactly conjunct my exact moon-mars conjunction.
My Venus exactly conjunct his exact Sun-Mars conjunction.
His Venus bang on my Sun.
Forget the birthdays, bring on that napalm! (please)
PS, hello beautiful Comments-Clan, I’ve emerged from Pluto captivity renewed and have missed you heaps. xx
Darling Lex, it has been a long time between drinks.
x
Hope you are shooting the breeze and getting it on in your inimicable way.
From Pegs
missed you too babe. was just thinking about you re recent post. hope you well xx
I say go for it, at least you will never forget your spouses birthday, it’s money & time efficient for parties and you can make birthday’s in to a more romantic thing as it’s more reciprocated.
I’d like to try getting with another Aqua, also coz my Mars is Aqua too. Also, I feel like I’m more aware of “good”/”bad” (from my perspective) Aqua’s so I tend to scrutinise other Aqua’s in to either category and find that the bad ones shit me and the good ones I totally get and understand where they’re at and their boundaries etc, which I think is important for any kind of relationship.
It also seems like other Aqua’s get my sense of humour/aren’t offended by it and aren’t stickler’s for “behaving appropriately”
I know so many Aquarius couples! Its a “thing”! Tauruses, too…
Dear Mystic, thanks for throwing out my dilemma to the Mystic Masses! Some of the advice and stories have been invaluable… The first date went well, it was a bit like dating a mirror just like the graphic you lead with on this post.. There was possibly a bit of a leadership struggle to see who would lead the conversation as we both love the sound of our own voice and have great need to share opinions!? Ha ha ha… . Too early to judge the whole thing yet has any longterm prospects, but it was fun. xx
I had a 5 month thing with a guy born the day after me, but 3 years older. His birth in Europe and mine in Oz I guess meant for varying degrees of planetoid difference. Very love zombie, yet so very smooth and groovy. Sometimes I still ponder those times. Glad I ended it though, it was like a culdesac that had no possibility of becoming a path. I think we were both shocked at the abrupt end, and both relieved. The culdesac was great in the sac & for vibing high on the raw cold press juice we’d spend weekends concocting, along with creative projects that left us giggling way into the wee hours. Far too much wine & cigarettes tho! Hilarious!
I had a relationship with a guy born on the same day, month, year, hour as me. Love at first sight…. we lived together for a year and he turned out to be a mean, nasty person. Hmmm. took me ages to get over it. He was the mirror opposite to me in many ways, even looks – and, even though I DO have dark -side, It’s certainly not cruel, unfaithful and nasty.