If You Can’t Say Anything Nice…

You know what they say.  If you can’t say anything nice…come over here and sit beside me, lol.

This morning i was thinking about the sign modalities and how oddly accurate they are – Cardinal Signs are Aries, Kataka, Capricorn and Libra. Fixed Signs are Taurus, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius. The Mutables are Gemini, Virgo, Saggo and Pisces.  Each group is made up of all the four elements and they’re all obviously different but the same modality.

If you were going to be bitchy about it and do just the non-nice bits, the worst aspects of each modality are as follows:

Cardinals – natural-born whacko dictators, controlling and bossy, always think they’re superior, can be hideously pass-agg – even Aries when they’re not being agg-agg.

Fixed – prone to being terribly stuck and then making out that it’s a position of dignity, the moral high ground even. Can bear a grudge for centuries and finds it hard to entertain disparate views.

Mutables – the original High Functioning Flakes, totally unable to be relied upon if they’re having an In-The-Moment moment, faddy and prone to sudden disappearings out of peeps life, sans explanation. It’s just the vibe. Yes, even St Virgo.

Thoughts?

85 thoughts on “If You Can’t Say Anything Nice…

  1. agreed – if I don’t like someone and/or have been burnt by them, I see no need EVER to like them/reconnect; forgiveness is essential however that doesn’t mean I need to talk to reengage so if our paths cross just keep walking please… as is my way.

    • lol!
      Guilty as charged. St. Virgo Sun with Scorp Rising= Stubborn, unforgiving, grudge holding and I’ll disappear rather than deal with bs.
      ;)

      • x3 :D But with a saggitarius sun, Virgo rising and Mars, Mercury, Moon and Venus Scorpio, I’ll put raw prawns into your curtain rods before disappearing forever.

        Also: Saggie Sun = tendency to forget people if not in front of me

        • Wow, DT – you are not to be trifled with! My vengeful days are over but that prawn trick would have been very satisfying in my darker days!

        • me 4 – I’m Saggo Sun, Scorp Rising, Moon in Virgo and Scorp in Mars, Venus and Jup…haven’t spoken to my ditzy, pass agg twin sis in two years and don’t see the point in tolerating family or ‘friend’ or barely knowns shite…got enough of my own to manage w/o taking on their crap!! And I have an allergy to drama queens…I do just disappear!

  2. I laughed out loud reading these and have now memorized them accordingly. From now on (when thinking things astrological) my mind will replace Cardinal with “Whacko Dictator”, Fixed with “Terribly Stuck Dignitaries”, and Mutable with “High Functioning Flakes”. Thank you for being so you, Mystic ;)

  3. I’m a Taurus with Leo Rising. I do believe I could easily hold a grudge through a few future lifetimes.

    • I’m the same (Taurus, Leo rising) but I am happy to give in a lot of the time and let things fly with people. I have Mars in Gem and moon in Sag which is why my combative side may be a bit more scattered.

  4. That is funny. The guy I keep referring to is a Gemini..I am a Virgo. We both have a tendency to disappear without any explanation. Explains a lot about why we can’t stay together!

  5. hilarious! So true and I can relate those traits to a person of every starsign – including moi as a pisces.

  6. Haaa!!! Spot on, indeed!
    I’m a lot mutable (Pisces sun, w/ 4 other planets, ascendant and north node in mutable signs) with a fixed moon, and when I’m doing the “low” version of anything, I definitely tend first toward High Functioning Flake! I try to work on it, I really do…sometimes that’s easier than others…at nearly 4 decades into this life, it’s still difficult to not spread myself too thin sometimes….I think the biggest part of the high functioning *Pisces* version of flake, is we’re born people pleasers…also I think we have huge fear of missing out (or at least I do!), so the flaking comes when we’ve given all we have, energy wise, and getting to that point of emotional, mental and physical burn out (self induced), then realizing we’re just “going to have to cancel”.
    Again, this is something I’ve been consciously working on for many years, but it can certainly be a challenge! (and yes…I’ve definitely done the disappearing act too!)

    • I saw the High Functioning part and thought YEAAAAHHH.

      Then i saw Flake and my heart fell- er, no wait – Flake is just a type of Fish, isn’t it? :D Gummy shark.

      No drama, mama.

  7. yes

    and as I am obviously a whacko dictator with sun, moon mercury in first two degrees of cancer (and in the 10th house) nobody will dare disagree with me. they’d better not anyways.

    or I’ll sulk,

    • Oh. I think Merc, Venus, Saturn & Sirius – yes I am counting fixed stars now and so should you – could make me a candidate for power sulk dictator status too.
      What? You don’t care for fixed stars? *pouts & shuffles off shell all lopsided*

  8. Gem Asc – I can be very forgiving with people I don’t care about.
    Sun Leo – 2nd House of Toro – Moon in Scorpio – don’t offend me as a deep friend, seriously, I don’t want that energy in my personal field.

    :)

    But seriously, I think my Kataka sis holds all records for grudge-holding. She still resents her three other siblings being born – at 43 she wishes she was an only child! Ugh.

      • Am afraid so. I have four insanely great friends that I see a lot and would forgive anything though.

        Apparently in the1920’s people had as many as 16 people they counted as very close. Today it is more like 2-8 for most people.
        I wonder what outer planets that could be blamed on! I don’t feel like listing societies ills..

          • Having provided a drama for a whole village that didn’t have many tv’s I can vouch for your hypothesis.

        • Well I reckon Neptune in Aqua changed a lot about society! And not all for the best. People too busy texting, tweeeting to even bother saying hello.

    • I have a Kataka sister too and she still has a grudge about anyone else being born to this day. Not sure what it’s all about! Only child envy?

    • And I thought I was the only one with a Kataka older sis who is doing the same to us from time to time just to remind us we should have never been born !!!

        • My Cancer sister and I have pass-agg contests (Kataka moon me). She rings to discuss her numerous ailments (all of which are exceptionally minor, like skin tags FFS), I try to get the conversation onto something else: “Oh look my cats went and dragged a chicken wing off the bench while I was out of the room, devilish things.”
          Sis: They are behaving like stray animals; only strays jump on furniture and just help themselves. Why did you leave the chicken out?

          Ouch score one for Sis, hinting that I am neglecting my pets and am bad housekeeper/slattern to boot.

          Me: “Skin tags are just tumourous overgrowths of epidermal cells, you get them when you are older, just snip them off for crying out loud. Score 1 for me for using the words “tumour” and “older” while simultaneously suggesting she’s overreacting. Call it a draw.

          We’re horrid but we love each other really.

      • Wow just saw these – we are not alone! The cast-iron original selfish shell-fish these ones.

        I think they believe that there isn’t enough to go around. If someone else has something nice – there won’t be any for them.
        Then there is the dog in the manger thing – I truly don’t get it.

        My sis is also always ‘baggsing’ things of value for when my parents go into a home or die…

        • ” If someone else has something nice – there won’t be any for them”

          OMG! That’s my Leo sister with Mars in Cancer. Always complaining about how tough her life is and resents anyone who’s getting the easy way out. She made those choices! Quit complaining!

          • That is interesting! My cancer sis is leo moon & rising. She loathes that my life unfolds so smoothly with no planning. She is all about the work – externally, while I always start internally and let the external take care of itself. She thinks I always land on my feet & doesn’t understand the effort I put in to living. In fact I am an affront to all she deems of value! Lol.

            Without astrology I would say we are opposites that are meant to complement and help each other on our paths in life – instead she wants to fight about it. She has Mars in Saggi. My mars is conj her Asc. Sigh. I also have Mars in the 3rd house of siblings…

  9. Double cap , natural born wacko and dictators / Bossy
    Yes that is me when I am pushed to far . Now I know why “The Godfather is one of my favorite movies . I strive to take the High Road but lately I have been on edge . I have to see my part in things . But when people over step boundaries that is it !
    So true Mystic

  10. Sun/moon Taurean- I only WISH i could hold a grudge. I’m such a flake with my Aries planets and Gemini Asc I always forget and forgive.

      • Well I knew a Gemini with Taurus venus and she could hold a grudge for several lifetimes!! Stubborn as an ox too!

      • I think most probably have! Human kind of experience..
        Gem Asc is pretty disinterested in grudges – I didn’t know Toro Moon could be so easy going, I guess Venus was a flighty girl?

        • i don’t hold grudges and my toro moon is very sweet. unless someone power trips on me… then it’s on. otherwise, really, who cares? so not worth the effort.

          • Nice. My niece is my first known Toro Moon so I am keen to know more about you lovely people.

  11. I dissapear rather than put up with anyone’s BULLshit. In fact I prefer the company of my 3 dogs and other dog loving peeps regardless of their signs.

  12. My Son is a double cap I let him think he’s the boss. That way we get along :) I’m greatful that he works alot and is VERY good to me :) xox

  13. LOL….yes.
    The Taurus sun love is so set in his ways. My pisces twins and me with my virgo rising are high functioning flakes for sure.

    The multi virgo who likes to vanish(so I banned him and vanished from his life) actually called me today. wtf?

  14. I have a Fixed Sun, Mutable Moon, Cardinal Rising, so I’m a mixed bag, I suppose….
    but these days, I haven’t been able to say something nice at all about anything, I’ve been a raving B***h for the past year at least…… so I guess we chalk that up to either the fixed sun sign or the cardinal sign on the ascendant?

    • Ha. Me too! Mixed bag. Scorp sun/Saggo moon/Cap Asc… Pluto retro-ing back over my Asc. :shock:

  15. I am a fixed sun and rising and I have dealt with a lot of mutable flakes in my time. They always seem to suddenly just go away and without any explanation. Their flightiness always leaves me with a big question mark slapped in my face.

    • I have Virgo Sun plus Scorpio Rising so, I am a Highly Functioning Flake plus am stubborn and can hold a grudge.
      Flakes will disappear if they think they cannot resolve a conflict without it turning into a confrontation or fight. After years of being straight forth and honest I realize some people don’t wanna hear it and will fight instead of listening.
      Then there are some very flaky people who will get distracted very easily!
      Good luck!

    • I would fall under the ‘flake’ umbrella and I have walked out of my share of fixed folks lives.. thing is – we flakes run out of patience for some who moan and groan but never want to change anything. CHANGE is the only way to improve intolerable circumstances, yet fixed people do not want to hear it. The ones I’ve known only want company in the dwelling..

      • I agree re the “want company in the dwelling” and change being the only way to fix intolerable circumstances. Virgo/Virgo rising. I have remade my social circle from scratch about three or four times so far in this life…working on a redo right now. I’m not holding a grudge or hiding from anyone, but I am not going to make nice with fuqwits for the sake of fitting in (phrases like “fitting in” and “like minded” makes me cringe). I’d way rather be a nun of anarchy than a like mind.

  16. Hold no grudges, waste of energy and interferes with my appetite.
    Have learned NOT to just disappear, not so easy to change countries
    as it was so i just change my attitude or perspective.
    Just do what’s easiest as it’s often what’s best…..

    • Sage advice.
      Holding a grudge is like swallowing poison and hoping your enemy will die.

  17. Virgo.

    Love disappearing. Love it. Could teach Houdini a thing or two.

    Situations so easily solved with a smooth vamoose.

    Life is a constant process of editing & we DO NOT negotiate.

    • Another member of the ‘Escape Artist’s Club’ and St. Virgo to boot.

      While crowded cardinals like a Libra stellium/asc keep their arrogant eyebrow raised at lowbrowism and thrill at the opportunity to spar with (RE: subdue) an opponent on a variety of topics, my Virgo Sun and Gemini Moon opposition Saggo/Neptune/3rd house prevails.

      This alignment is intense and happily keeps me chasing the sublimest light of the moment, though in true High Functioning Flake style I’m often disinterested in the afterglow/aftermath. It’s usually when the plates of my latest intrigues are still spinning and my social, professional and personal life are at a fever pitch (RE: near-burnout or restlessness) – or, as in a recent case of BFF/Iago detox – that I pull my famous disappearing act until the Spring, possibly in a new location with a new crowd. *Atlas shrug*

  18. Double mutable / fixed moon – I like to disappear, why waste time on confrontations? I am there and not there to take orders. Only a Scorp has proved to being at the same league with me. He pops back and then, disappears. At least I learned not to chase.

  19. Worst ever combo is probably Sun Leo and Taurus Moon.

    Totally convinced that what they do is above board, necessary and justified.
    They hang on to that self-justification even if it’s strangling the lifeblood out of someone. For years……..
    Then they’ll tell you that they are the ones suffering. Very loudly.

  20. Libra Sun/Aries Rising – I *want* to be a whacko dictator! But I think the five planets I’ve got in Libra make me too much of a people pleaser. (Or maybe it’s my 6th house sun? All my planets are on the extreme right of my chart, too.) I generally feel like more of a doormat. It’s a recipe for resentment for this Cardinal ;-D

  21. Ha Ha, so true! Fluid (heavily mutable) so yes to high functioning flake. Yet my fixed Leo Sun – Feline – will cut you off without turnaround in a nanosec under certain circumstances.

  22. Wow….just noticed how many scorpio types there are on this blog. Should be somewhat obvious why, but still!

    My mom is a Virgo, Sagg rising, Gemini moon. AND she has mars in Leo. She’s a NIGHTMARE to say the least. She has had over 50 different dogs because she keeps changing them for new ones. Moves at least every two years, randomly finds something wrong with anyone/anything and ditches. High functioning, somehow, I have no idea. But only when it comes to material things…everything else is a sh*t show!

    I have the most mixed of mixed bags : libra scorp sagg cap in my chart and that is IT. As a sun/moon libra: accused many times of being mightier than thou. Well come on now people, I became mightier than thou because that’s what you should strive to be, right? Then they stone me for it!

    Scorp rising with merc pluto saturn scorp. it’s not even about grudges..it’s like…if you brag about cheating on your girlfriend, i will think you’re an asshole forever. period. if you screw me over, consider yourself written off. and i’ll be pretty stubborn about my opinion of you!

    of course, being fair and all, i will always be willing to hear you out…in three years or so.

  23. Wow….just noticed how many scorpio types there are on this blog. Should be somewhat obvious why, but still!

    My mom is a Virgo, Sagg rising, Gemini moon. AND she has mars in Leo. She’s a NIGHTMARE to say the least. She has had over 50 different dogs because she keeps changing them for new ones. Moves at least every two years, randomly finds something wrong with anyone/anything and ditches. High functioning, somehow, I have no idea. But only when it comes to material things…everything else is a sh*t show!

    I have the most mixed of mixed bags : libra scorp sagg cap in my chart and that is IT. As a sun/moon libra: accused many times of being mightier than thou. Well come on now people, I became mightier than thou because that’s what you should strive to be, right? Then they stone me for it!

    Scorp rising with merc pluto saturn scorp. it’s not even about grudges..it’s like…if you brag about cheating on your girlfriend, i will think you’re an asshole forever. period. if you screw me over, consider yourself written off. and i’ll be pretty stubborn about my opinion of you!

    of course, being fair and all, i will always be willing to hear you out…in three years or so.

    and mars/jupiter in cap….if you people don’t want me to boss you around, then quit being such a bunch of children and do what needs to be done WITHOUT me asking!

  24. wow super funny!!!! im totally mutable and my fixed boyfriend you explained perfectly in such few words. : )

  25. L.gaga is sure one pass-agg, agg-agg. Aries.
    elton john not much better-pre-readied dementia/cokehead flashbacks-
    “Cardinals – natural-born whacko dictators, controlling and bossy, always think they’re superior, can be hideously pass-agg – even Aries when they’re not being agg-agg.”
    “peace love and light ———>my way!! when i say!”
    too much money and not enough sense.

  26. half flake half fixed. eternally torn. with almost nothing cardinal (pluto and nn? pffft) but so help me if i’m not the pettiest of dictators too… well when i feel like it or if you tell me i’m NOT…

  27. Oh definately a flakey dictator :-)
    Can’t be bothered with the grudge stuff ( Neptune/Venus rising in Scorpio) – after all you need to be communicating to have an impact ;-)

  28. Who me? Flakish? Neva! Virgo Sun, Aries Moon. Flakish AND Control Freak – use to be me. More and more realizing err of my ways. Staying in relationships or around said annoyance-types, and using my passo-agg Libra ascendent more. Great post, Mystic!

  29. Via this guide, my sister is a Sagg and often ran away. Gemini parent ,check; Gemini guy who, skip to the end :P Check. Disappearing acts to be sure! Good to hear there is some kind of cosmic reasoning to reason with now, thank you. :)

  30. That is so funny and true! I’m Fixed (have many planets in Scorp) and I can hold a grudge for decades, just waiting to exact my revenge. The opportunity will present itself. I’m patience. And I do have a low tolerance for those who can’t see my brilliance. Lol. As you can imagine, I try to steer clear of my kind. Cards I have no real issues with, although Libras tend to be annoying at times. And those mutables… all my close friends are those.

  31. Wow! So true that I’ve copied and pasted this into the “Things that make me say Wow” file.

  32. Lol….Cardinal rising/moon, mutable sun…..well let you know What’s What before disappearing…..usually forever.