Comments on: Doesn’t Matter What Everyone Tells You To…

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 15:56:48 +0000

Bless you for giving your little one the price-less benefits of your time and attention while she is young ! Those years are so special to a child.

By: seabird

seabird — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 15:52:28 +0000

Sincerely, thanks everybody. i think i periodically have a bit of a whinge on this site about the same thing, but i do really appreciate the cyber-chick support.
Seabird

By: Über Virgo

Über Virgo — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 12:19:21 +0000

Totally right about women’s sacrifices of creativity for children. Yet there are also women who would chuck all the ‘freedom’ to have a family. My writer friend’s eldest is nearly out of high school, so she has less child rearing responsibility now. After an illness a couple of years ago, she and her hubby realized she needed to do her creative thing and worked it into their lives. I don’t think it’s been easy. I hope you get the balance you wish for.

I personally have never wished to be a man. They have a whole set of restrictive roles and masculine images to screw them up. Plenty of men are embittered by their dreams of lost libertinism or the creativity they could have had if they hadn’t taken on role of provider. Then if they get their freedom, sometimes by dumping their responsibilities, they often screw, drink or drug themselves to death. Of course women destroy themselves too, but statistically men make more of a job of it (shown in life expectancy for single or divorced men and rates of alcoholism, declines in health etc.)

In the end, we can only do our best.

By: Tricia

Tricia — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 11:27:42 +0000

Seabird, you can do it. My son is 14 now and it’s just been the two of us since I was pregnant. No family in Australia either. Just keep putting one foot on the ground every morning and ask whatever power you believe in for enough strength and wisdom for that day. Keep loving your precious child and supporting her financially. She will have a strong role model and you will be proud you did it for both of you. My boy is calm and popular and loves his Mum. I’ve done all sorts of work from crappy diswashing to bookeeping to running courses to pay our way and now I’m about to go back to do a masters too. It feels like Saturn in my sign for the first time in 29 years is ushering in a free new era and bring it on, I say! Keep the faith young lady, you are not alone. Bless.

By: pegasus

pegasus — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 06:17:50 +0000

SeaBird, you are in an amazing mystical spot on the planet.
You will work it all out. Look how far you have come already!

By: scorpalicious robot

scorpalicious robot — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 05:54:36 +0000

HAHA… yes you did say.

By: prowlncat

prowlncat — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 05:12:14 +0000

SPIN OUT SYNCHRONICITY!!!

The new personal trainer is a VIRGO … din I say so din I din I ??? I’ve come over all witchygoogoo now

By: seabird

seabird — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 03:47:58 +0000

LL your comments help enormously. It’s not a matter of making time – it’s finding the balance. My child is one of my biggest co-creations, and I am always wary about putting anything ahead of her while she is still so young. But you do need another outlet. I’ve been alone with my girl since she was 8 months old, with no help whatsoever from my ex and very little from family. But now, when I see what a kid she is, I feel proud where I used to feel bitter. but that was a conscious choice, to make the time to be with her, as is coming here, to make the time to be with her. That’s why I don’t get up at 5am to write (well, I get up at 6 am because work starts early in these parts), because i do not need to force myself any more than I already do. there must be joy and space in life.

I find it fascinating also watching myself and others and reading your comments about this. The creative urge for women can sometimes be so hard to maintain. So many times I’ve wished I was a man. In many cases, it’s a choice of babies or creativity. But some of us want it all, and then into the mix you are the only breadwinner. I think a lot of the women that Mystic highlights on this site are women who don’t conform, who follow the muse. But i wonder how many of them had children??

By: xox rockstar libran publicist xox

xox rockstar libran publicist xox — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 02:14:30 +0000

funnily – did spice cabinets last new moon – @I think there’s no more odd balls in the back, something unopened since 1992 unearths!!

am re-orgaizing finance, income stream, career opps & $ obligations…….balanced by health & fitness.

bring on the new!!
xox

By: xox rockstar libran publicist xox

xox rockstar libran publicist xox — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 02:11:51 +0000

Twyla Tharp timezones!!