The Museum Of Broken Relationships
This is an exhibit from the Museum Of Broken Relationships.
Hey, I have made this poll so you can check more than one option!
This is an exhibit from the Museum Of Broken Relationships.
Hey, I have made this poll so you can check more than one option!
are we talking loving nostalgia or bitter and vengeful hatred? my answer would vary depending on which sort of not-letting-go we’re talking about
librans seem to hold on to a bitter resentment whereas Taureans do the whole mulling over the good points of previous partner and wondering if they will still end up together after all…
Ammm yes well at least ublike aquarians who want to be “friends” after breaking up…. they don’t let go ever, and what about em SCORPS eh? They NEVER let go, I think its more a fixed dign thing!!
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Good Lord, I’m an Aquarian wanting to move on from a Scorp. And we both have heaps of Taurus too. *sigh* There’s fixed and then there’s fixed. I prefer to think of myself as fixed on letting go.
Cancer & Picses i reckon….
Cancer becuase, no offence, but clingy lovers
and Picses because their the Dreamy, “maybe if i keep his old pair of underwhear he might come back to me!”
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ew! jewellery maybe, but old jocks? don’t think so…
my wife sells mine on ebay before they get old..
Daveyl, That must be her Sagg Moon, as opposed to Cancer Sun? hehe…
Better watch it (and check whatever else she got for sale.
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I meant “sale” as far as YOUR stuff, not her…yikes…x
hahahah
lol davidL too much info lmfao
I find Cancers can be pretty hard core when they want something done and dusted.
I might just be being a tad self-obsessed, but I reckon the answer is TOTALLY Capricorn. It’s the endless loyalty thing. And the bloody-minded STAMINA. And the ‘I know if I persevere I WILL get that relationship right one day’.
Trust me – I’ve been doing it for A DECADE.
Also ticked Pisces ‘cos let’s face it – as sweet as they are – they love to ‘believe the lie’.
my first ever boyfriend was a Cap and when we split up he was prone to leaving doleful love letters amongst the pages of a book – Titus Groan, something by Herman Hesse – under my door.
LOL yaaahh and also cancers appear as though they are not getting over it, only because they don’t want to see their EX partner suffer, when its really their way of letting go.
Lexicorn, I absolutely agree! And yes, even I voted Kataka on the poll.
But I also think it depends on the mix of Moon/Rising Sign/Venus combos – the Scorp Rising Cancer has a Pisces moon, and all that water makes it hard to really see a distinguishable “cutting off”. I think the whole holding on is more about unresolved emotions than the other person.
Like you, I also agree with the Cappos – had a Cappo acquaintance who wanted to be more than friends from four years back and guess what? Regardless of me being Scorped, out of the country, unavailable or in outer space, he STILL asks me out. Though I feel that devotion is more to the idea of how I am part of his grand plan rather than anything to do with who I am really.
As a Kataka with an Aqua Moon, and Virgo Rising, my obsessions end quite organically. I wake up and its fallen off. Not a problem.
It IS hard though when I am still so invested emotionally in the relationship, but once a person starts giving me space, I bloody well take it. The problem is I slowly morph into irretrievable after that…usually when slowly but surely, the other person falls away from being part of my reality AND when I am convinced neither one of us will grow together.
I had a Toro friend ask me why I don’t do facebook..and it’s really because if I’m not speaking to someone, I’d really rather they not find me. THAT has got to be the Venus in Leo, haha
Hey guys, this has no relevance what so ever with the topic BUT i need to tell you all!
Apparently my School Chaplain sent off some of my english work (on reconmendation of my english teacher) To a friend of hers, who in turn sent it to a close friend of hers who then email ME, introducing themselves as TeenSoul Magazine – a up and coming teenage magazine aimed at Australia’s youth – and how they would love me to be the head journalist in their Human Rights & Music sectors. Also on a follow up email they also wish for me to have and run MY OWN ASTROLOGY SECTOR! OMG SOOO COOL! I WAS LIKE :O OMFG!
AND YES I HAVE TAKEN IT
AND NOW IM WRITING UP MY FIRST MONTHLY FORCAST FOR SEPTEMBER – MY EYES ARE NOW DARTING THROUGH MY EPHEMERIS LOOKING FOR KEY SIGNS!
i hope i can ask you guys for a little guidence if need be – but im sooo excited and yet soooo nervous!
Matt
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That’s fantastic news Matt! Congrats on the gig, you’ll be great!!
Congratulations Mr M!
You’ll be fabulous.
Just don’t freak out too many of those teens with capitalising any of the bad aspects of the month ahead… Maybe you could use just a few capitals for the really GOOD STUFF.
you really rock, matt
Oh, good point Lex….And coming from a Cap!!
Yes, a lesson in discernment our dear young man about how your voice is heard through the written word (okay, know I’m not you’re Mom or anything but you did state “Astrologer in Training” and here ya go!!)
Congrats honey…
hehe cute pic Sweetpea!
Thanks Prowls,
Thats my little granddaughter when she was probably 2-3 yrs old. She’ll be eight in October….(how DARE they grow!)
nice dice matt – go get em!!
It was only a matter of time Matt that your talent would be spotted. That’s so cool you’ll breeze it in.
And….
Will they let you do IT IN CAPITALS?
Go Matt! Good luck and keep us posted.
Matt that is great news – knew you were spesh!! Hope they’re paying you for it. xx
yayyayyay!!! fantastic! go you!!!
Great news, Matt! Hooray, you get to do what you love!
Don’t be nervous, you’ll be fab and think you are fulfilling your astro-destiny as a Sagg, symbolized by Chiron. Were the centaurs not the seers of the stars from yore?
So happy for you babe!
AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW THANKS GUYS!
yes i have now taken notes on the CAPITALISATION OF MY SENTENCES!
LOL!
AS FOR THE PAYING SIDE OF IT …. well TeenSoul Magazine is a voulenteer thing (so anyone who’s a teen can koin and right up) BUT and i quote “As you will be heading 3 of our topics some payment will be given to you” so its all still very hush hush.
ANYWAYS
im soooo looking forward to it!
Matt
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Hey Matt, I am soo happy for you. Have fun and dont get too serious.
: >
no i wont – ive been told to keep it bright, bubbly fun and cool
so no death warnings and stuff
Thanks Salacious
That is UNREAL! Congratulations!!!! Mars trine Jupiter – your ruler – awesome for you, yes…Are they gonna pay you or is this for glory???
I agree! Awesome news! x
thanks Mystic and Upbeat Scorp!
Mystic i think i answered your question in my 2nd post ^ ^
Thanks sooo much mystic you are a TOTAL inspiration BTW!
Hey mm – posted Kim F’s take on your NN in Scorp etc way back on Past Lives posts – a bit late but still if your interested …..
OMG THANKYOU I HAVNT SEEN IT
YAY!
Recently had a Cancerian man worm his way out of the woodwork to see if I was interested in “being friends again”.
I licked my lips at the impending fun I would have tearing him apart. He was from 1995/96 vintage, tried to screw most of my friends, wouldn’t piss off when I made it so damn obvious that I loathed him. Comes back and thinks all is forgotten but then get this, tries to say that I wanted more than he can give. WTF?! This was the putz that I left out at Ross River Homestead then tried to cook him in my lounge room.
I wish he lived near by so I could knee him in the balls
Even I said Cancer.
However, while we may pine over a lost lover, we don’t really do the whole going back to people. We’ll just cry and be an emotional wreck.
And Pisces are WIERD when it comes to relationships!
Yes it’s twats like him that give Cancerians a bad name. I have moon in Cancer I know that sometimes I reminisce & pine. I think this guy’s obviously got something in his chart, I wish I’d got his birth time before I flicked him off once and for all.
well, this Gemini has been mooning for almost 8 years now… doesn’t help that the ex (Virgo) won’t let go either…
As a Gem, aren’t I supposed to be shallow and fickle???
tragic.
That’s where “Gemini8″ comes in perhaps? Thought maybe you had a space rocket…(‘Come in Houston’….”Houston, we have a problem…Gemi’s heart is broken”)
Poor baby.
Over all, don’t agree with the whole shallow and fickle thing though either. There has been much debate for example if the USA is a Sagg rising or Gemini. One astrologer is adamant that USA’s chart is Gemini because we’re all so shallow and follow movie stars, etc. Well, I don’t and have Gem rising. Such a broad statement….Ridiculous.
I know Pisceans who have mooned over broken relationships for decades. Worst are the ones who vocally moon over someone else long after finding a new partner.
Saggos moon for an average of 3 hours or until the next jaunt to the pub, whichever period is shorter. Usually they’ve moved on from a relationship before it’s actually broken up.
yes to both, so true grrr
I definitely am voting for my own sign of Cancer here, although it’s been a mixed bag with me as to how much excessive mooning goes on. If I’m the one to end the relationship because it’s a dead end/boring/just over then zero to no mooning. If it’s over before I’m ready to admit it’s over then Mope City Limits here we come …. but I’ve never crapped on about it for years or anything.
The only person I’ve known to do the whole years of moping over an ex was a Libran.
So the water signs have it. Nostaligic Cancer pipping romantic Pisces and obsessive Scorp.
I’m blaming my Pisces Asc for the not-very-subtle ‘you’re still letting your ex drive the big blue sedan over terrifying barren and rocky terrain’ dream I had last night which indicated that while my Gemini Sun might have intellectually resolved the demise of the relationship, there’s still some residual emotional stuff to ‘work thru’ (Saturn in Virgo in my 7th). Hmph! Annoying.
I love that no-one has voted for Gemini.
For sure Cancer, but runners-up Pisces & Scorp. My dad remembered in detail every awful and good thing that happened in his past relationships. Their memories are amazing. One of my good Crabby friends is the same way…still brooding over an ex but has technically gone on with a new man.
Yep voted Cancer – guilty with Cancer Moon/Mars etc myself. Don’t do the clingy, stalker, drunk dialling things but still remember and feel contained sadness etc years later (whether i was dumper or dumpee). And keep all the photos, mementos, letters etc and remember anniversaries/b’days of all ex-loves.
And Mystic it was kinda a loaded question ie which sign most likely to “moon” over past relationships. Agree with the results that water signs most likely.
well im virgo and im quite capable of mooning unreasonably over past relationships… i just never talk about it.! whereas water signs are maybe just more likely to be into expressing their feelings.
that said, there is one cancer i knew and… sheesh! his mooning had a special quality to it!
Maybe it’s called “mooning” since it has to do with how we feel? (The Moon more so perhaps than the Sun?)
Sun sign wise though, I remember seeing my ex Cancerian husband in the parking lot of the grocery store not long after we no longer lived together. He looked so down trodden and heartbroken (Virgo Moon). He never knew I had seen him. I felt horrible. Over the years (like about fifteen…), he usually made it clear he would have wanted to get back together. Hope he’s happy now with his new Aries gal.
Some astrologer, don’t remember whom, said that earth signs ‘feel deepest’. Maybe, since my Moon in Cap and felt some “doozies of a depth” when heart broken. At one point I cried every day for two months..Can’t just go on my Sun alone even though in the poll Aries is at a very meager 1%.
The first time around, know I mooned over the Pisces for a long time even though he’d acted an idiot. Suppose that is “unreasonable” since he’d given me every good reason to NOT moon.
Though the second time around he said he had always wondered “what could have been”. Hmmm. Maybe it was true that he mooned too, or maybe some just want what they no longer have. Guess that IS the whole point to mooning though?…..
Sweetpea, it drives me into RAGE when I see exes and they start up that “what could have been” convo! I can’t help it, I know its just reminiscing, mooning, poignancy, whatever..but I just feel like if you fekking didn’t do anything about it THEN, I’m NOT going to be indulging a fantasy tour for your benefit NOW.
If they’re still interested, then do something about it – I’d rather create something new from what was history and who we are now, rather than as the Divine M so succinctly puts it, play the “greatest hits compilation”. Soz, is a peeve of mine.
I know its meant to arouse my sympathies but it so does not…maybe because I will give my last drop of blood to whatever I’m into and by the time I leave it, I really feel that it is the right thing to do. I am however, very impressed when people from the past approach me, announce intent to start over and do exactly just that. Not to impress me, but just as an honoring of who and what is here now.
Soz realize am raving…
“Soz realize am raving…”
Ha,ha…quite okay.
Yeah, freakin’ lame excuse (“what could have been”. Please..) Did get an apology three years later though but yes, intentions were not terribly, terribly clear except “want us to be together”. I do believe that part but was still too immature and well, with my back surgeries and all and going that all alone…After crawling on the floor and contemplating suicide…Yeah, ~you could have been there” for starters…
THAT’S what could have been…..
Eh, now I’m raving but in a jolly good mood actually…hehe…
Sweetpea, how awful! I’m sure the apology was better late than never, though at that point, you probably already sprouted wings from having evolved through all that mess solo!
I AIM to be kind and compassionate, though I am probably a bit fearsome and fierce once roused to white hot anger..some offending ex friend once decided to come back and excuse themselves lamely for some atrocious behavior that I could not stop myself from asking if they were completing Step 4 of AA i.e. making amends.
I wouldn’t bit that back now as I realize we all make mistakes but like you so rightly point out, living well and happily is the best revenge!
Yeah, and the universe is so freaking fair as got the opportunity to say “goodbye” on my terms the second time. Talk about mooning…The Pisces tried to see me for seven months but I went completely underground. Where I live now, my name is not even on the lease…
I did my karma and the Great Goddess gave me that gift and much, much more.
Yes, sometimes you do gotta crawl before you walk… And then like you mention….Sprout Wings!
Is that the Pisces Protection Program? haha… I understand completely.
I always imagine some fantastic goodbye scene with beautiful words that hit just the right emotional tempos, but in fact I just disappear, poof into air. And the worse part, I simply cannot even look at the person – not to be mean because I fear what they may see in my eyes if they looked at me directly!
There is only one goodbye I have regrets for and that would be my Mum dying… that had more to do with how in a way that was too close and too alike, we probably both felt the same pain, but having been in different stages in our lives, it wasn’t something easily articulated.
The fascinating thing was she knew what happened with Le Scorp and all she would say was, he should have told you, you love him anyway. Healing like always.
“imagine some fantastic goodbye scene”
Well FA, now that you bring it up….
Standing at my kitchen sink one morning…red and white plaid flannel pj bottoms on…(is that dramatic or what?
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But really, if felt totally dramatic…”It’s over for this lifetime”…
He came over to touch me, to try and console, but it was too late.
I told him “I can’t heal”
I HAD healed so much without him that now, coming back and some things that had gone down, I realized I would not be able to heal further with him at this point together. What a disappointment and a tradgedy. It really saddened my heart that it was still about him and not really about making it right for me too. OR, needing to lead him by the hand to see where he needed to cultivate sensitivity before he acted an idiot and said insensitive things. But that was the difference I dare say, between my Cap Moon and his Leo Moon/Mars…Linda Goodman was one sauvy chick..
But, time and lilfe had made me strong enough to do it (let him go) and so I did what needed to be done.
Totally understand about Le Scorp. It IS hard when you love someone. And Mum….Gosh Pluto will be upon my Moon in less than ten years. I haven’t really said good-bye to anyone in that way yet.
God Bless…
Well, flannel pajamas aside, that WAS dramatic..anything you’re laying down to rest after you’ve given yourself to it always is.
And as for saying that final goodbye because of death…let me just say this, during my Mum’s passing as her body cooled down from life, I held her fiercely to reassure whatever was left of her spirit that I was with her. But it occurred to me that I could accept her passing as a function of time..it is far more painful when people leave in life, because they have choice.
And it feels so intended. Even when it really isn’t and perhaps they just cannot be on the same journey anymore.
Oh FA,
I need to tear up but putting mascara on for Mom’s b-day and guests coming….
Thank you. How very intense. xo
“Very impressed when people from the past approach me, announce intent to start over and do exactly just that. Not to impress me, but just as an honoring of who and what is here now. ”
very apt FF and well written.
i’ave just had dinner with a gf who does not approve of my life and has no intention of accepting me for me. Ill stl hope she will take your advice. But probably not.
On a side note has anyone had a good experience with a Cancerian? i’m trying to woo one as we speak he has Leo sun so he can be fun and warm but has gone all crabby over eclipse time. we are both Venus in cancer so the poll is spot on for me. Any tips?
I wanted to respond to this earlier LG and started to write but was unclear about where the Cancerian placement is if he is Leo Sun?
If Cancer Venus only, do you have a Moon placement? I know about Cancer and Leo Suns but my daughter is the only one I know (besides Kim Falconer) who has Cancer Venus. She ( Gem daughter), very goo-goo over my granddaugther.
Thanks Leogroover… wow, too bad about the GF. Does she realize that friendship doesn’t necessarily require “approval”?
Our friends are who they are, no matter how upsetting that is. The friendship may change but attempting to force a change via ultimatum or manipulation doesn’t work in the long run. It’s just good drama.
I’m a Kataka sun, so think you said this guy is Leo sun, Aqua rising with Venus in Cancer ya? Hmm. Well, first loads of attention, Leo suns love devotion but the Aqua Rising appreciates a dignified and independent display of it. SP’s suggestion to be queenly is good, but not to the point where it could become a battle of egos, the Venus in Cancer won’t want that.
If his home is under threat, I can completely understand him going batso…but “home” for any Kataka influenced person can also be the security of a loved one, so perhaps go via the subtle friends route (Aqua rising) but be your sassy, sunny and warm self. He could be cuddling up to you once the doldrums are over.
SP he has cancer rising and venus in cancer. never dalth with so much crabbiness.
Well, in that case, I would just look FABULOUS (the Leo thing), and tippy toe around him in the sense of being subtle …Crabs are not necessarily direct but the saying “they go sideways” (like crabs), I’ve fond to be true.
I mean this in the sense that they hint…They don’t blast you in the face and don’t think they would care for it either.
As far as Leo Sun, I think it would be important to come across as confident. Someone one said a King wants a Queen to match his Kingliness…One might want to come across as worthy of such superior attention? If he sniffs you think less of youself, it might be over before it even begins…
More to it though as you really need to contemplate his Moon as his rising is DISPLAYING a part of him and the Sun a core essence, but, how does he feel? What does he like in terms of making him feel good…comfortable…
Maybe some others can add?
SP Sorry moon in Aquarius. I have aquarius rising.
Funnily enuf have a past aqua boy stl hovering abt whcih made me burst into tears last night when I got his txt as the boy I want to call doesn;’t and the one I don’t has WTF!!!
Thanks SP.
I have been fairly subtle and gentle ( for a Leo gal) no overtures. His aquarian moon is Ok – I can handle that, Comfortable? His home and security. Unfortuntaly both are under threat so he is a bit bats for a good reason. But then I’m going bats myself with the unknown. Which if i were being buddhist is an exciting thing. Freedom in uncertainty is the lesson I’m learning.
That or I’ll go and watch “he’s just that not that into you” for the 3rd time!!! to cheer myself up of course.
If he’s displaying “he’s just not that into you” symptoms, I’m afraid it might be true. I came to that conclusion on many levels. Christ, what a shocker! I dumped him the very next day…..
And I don’t mean “shock” in the sense that someone could not be “into me”…but that I hadn’t known about it symptom wise..
Thanks SP. i ment I’ll go watch “HJNTIY”. I don’t know if he’s being Leo or cancer . I will go investigate at new moon time when I hope he’ll be more Leo.
Guess you had not meant he HAD been having HJNTIY symptoms….get it..soz..Hate it too when people jump to conclusions that I had not meant….lol
Yes, hopefully more Leo to match the Moon? When he comes out of that shell…just grab him…
Hi fellow Leo gal. To test whether “HJNTIY” (detestable movie!) withdraw all your attention for a while. No emails, texts, phone calls- NADDA! Keep it up until he contacts you. If he notices your absence sooner rather than later, then, he IS into you. Nothing like total sensory deprivation to test the strength of any attachment. And, don’t forget, lotsa males (bless em) like to be the one that sets the tender trap. The art is to make it SEEM to them that they are taking all the running.
Did that with Monsieur Libra many, many moons ago. It took forever for him to finally make a move. Reader, I married him!
…… and divorced him in 2001.
It can be difficult for a Leo to let someone else take the reins. This from my nearly 10-year old Leo gal about dance classes at school. “He’s got no rhythm and he won’t let me lead!!” Too funny. Offfensive on both counts for a Leo…
lotsa comments…lexicorn up there mentioned cap – the Perseverance! and ‘i’ll get it right someday soon i know it’ I can recognise that with moon in cap.
but pisces – once i’ve done the best I can (at the time) – and been hurt the 100th time – yes i know Ridiculous but i am learning the way of self respect these days – i just decide and say “alright, you’ve had you chance 100 times over, so f*ck you i’m gone FOREVER” and I am – throw out photos, delete all correspondence, forget their mobile number, address, parents names, gone. i love it, i’ve never planned it that way but it’s the only way to survive heartache / heartbreak once the worst is over.
lol UP. I am exact opp as i outlined above – Cancer Moon. You won’t believe wot i did last night – i phoned my ex Gem love of my life (we broke up 20 years ago and i haven’t seen him since) – he’s married and living in Melbourne now. Spoke for ages, he’s still gorgeous (in spirit anyway) and it didn’t feel like 20 years had passed – we were so well matched in every way *sigh*.
Thank you all for your tips. Yes deprivation is the go. Never thought abt it as a tactic before but I will do it. I’m giving myself little treats every week I don’t call and getting busy with much more productive stuff like drinking loads of champers to celebrate the month of Leo.
The reason Sag seem never to moon is because we try extremely HARD to never fall in love. Which seems a pretty easy feat since we always twist up the difference between love and friendship. Once we realize we love them, we’ve probably already done some damage and that bridge can’t be gapped.
And much as I hate to admit, we do usually have one (or two, three) on the back burner…. Maybe we don’t like to be alone… but dammit, give me some space. sigh. That’s what it sounds like in my head. But, know this… on the seldom chance we do fall into love, true big time stuff, not infatuation.. and we lose that, UGHHHH, it’s the saddest sight to behold. At least, that’s what I’ve been told.
Am a Sag/sun/Venus myself, and have went back to the same man over and over and over for 25 years.
(He’s A cap. we are completely co-dependent.)